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I was perusing a femdom site this morning and came across a profile owned by two lesbians looking for a 24/7 male slave. It's not an ad I would answer, primarily because it took me a while to wrap my head around why they would have an interest in having a man around if they were lesbians and their attraction was to women. Let me start by stating that I know that one of the professional dominatrix's I see is lesbian. I get that. She's doing a job and gets paid for it. There is no sexual interaction in her sessions. It makes perfect sense to me. She beats men for a living and then she… Read more

I received this last night. It's a very good question. "Hi David, I have a blog request...how to tell if a profile is real. You mentioned some in your cleanup post, any other tips? How do tributes money for the recipients? Since I'm female, I guess I don't get as much spam." Let me start by saying I have no problem with someone selling porn clips on-line. You have a product for sale, and plenty of buyers here that are interested in such purchases. If I have a friend who is in the BDSM lifestyle, and happens to sell video clips without bombarding my news feed every five minutes w… Read more

I got a text this morning from the Dominatrix who I was going to see today canceling our session. No reason was given. Damn. I was REALLY looking forward to the abuse. The submissive craving is high in me right now. Fortunately for me, she isn't the only pro Domme in town. It's back to the ads and making a few phone calls today to see who is available on short notice. This is why I need to find a full time Mistress to serve. Pardon the pun, but a dominatrix who cancels is a real pain in the ass.… Read more

When I first joined Xhamster I accepted all friend requests which was a big mistake. I had well over 1500 friends at one point, but about half of them were scammers or solicitations of one sort or another. It wasn't enjoyable to log on and find my feed filled with ads and spam. I realize there is an unfollow feature, but I thought it better to start over. It took a long time. I would look at about 50 profiles a day. If they hadn't logged in for 30 days or more, they were dropped but I did not block them if they wanted to send a friend request and come back. If the profile had virtuall… Read more

This is sort of a public service announcement. There is a friend of mine here (you know who you are) who needs a little help in keeping things clean. This post is what I do to prep, and I'm not saying it's the only way but it's been effective for me. Your wife will greatly appreciate it, I promise. Things you will need: 1.Either an enema bag kit or several small Fleet enema bottles 2. 1 tube of your favorite lubricant (mine is still the old and reliable KY Jelly) 3. 1 dildo the size of the dildo that you will be pegged with 4. 1 fresh razor and shaving cream. 5. 1 Imod… Read more

I spent a good chunk of the afternoon yesterday working on booking a pro Domme session. There was a new ad that caught my eye posted from a woman who is a dominatrix in England visiting Dallas. Unfortunately, she is booked solid until she leaves next week. I am in the mood for something new, intense, and painful; and that's exactly what I found. Here is the ad 10 years experience, pro equipment. Wrestling, boxing, beat downs, lift and carry (for certain sizes), hard kicks and racking, face slapping, scissor holds, victory poses and muscle worship: I have mats, athletic wear, bad glov… Read more

I got paid on Thursday which means it's time to book my next session with a pro Domme. There are a wide variety of choices out there and today I thought I'd share with you some of the things I look for when selecting a professional. 1. Authenticity. There are tons of escort types who will spank for money. A hooker with a flogger in her purse is not my idea of a pro Domme. A real dominatrix lives and breathes femdom. Most do it not only professionally, but at home in their private relationships as well. For me it's much more exciting knowing that the person on the other end of the whip… Read more

I get paid on the first of the month which means I can schedule my monthly dominatrix session. A male friend of mine knows about my submissive behavior and it blows his mind that I would actually pay money to have a woman physically abuse me. He's been around me enough to know that if I schedule a session on a Saturday, we won't be playing tennis on Sunday. He used to give me shit about it, but he doesn't anymore. I found out he and his wife are swingers, which is no big deal to me but could be a big deal if the public found out. Communities don't take kindly to so called "perverts" on th… Read more

I'm not sure why female to male crossdressing isn't very popular in straight porn. With lesbian porn you'll find butches who seem comfortable assuming a more masculine look, but by and large it's rare that you see it in straight porn. I enjoy women who gender bend, and find it incredibly hot when a Domme takes on a male identity. Not every woman can pull it off, or even has the desire to, but when it's done correctly it really works for me. I don't think there are a lot of straight female to male 24/7 lifestylers out there. A few Tomboys perhaps, but I don't see many who go all out like… Read more

I received a text message from the pro Domme I saw a few weeks ago. It simply said, "How did you like our last session? When do I get to play with you again? Soon, I hope." She is one of the rare pro Dommes who communicates with her clients on a regular basis. It's really a smart thing to do, and it's optional (for those who prefer play discreetly). In fact, I really can't remember another Dominatrix I've seen doing that. I realize that the reason she does this is built a regular customer base, but there is also a part of me that gets excited when I see that I've gotten a message from… Read more

So I was chatting with a friend of mine who told me she had purchased a strapless strapon recently. It made me think of my last experience with one and I thought I'd share it with you today. Yes, I suppose you could call this a sex story, but there really isn't much in the way of physical details. Most of the experience went down as a mind fuck along with some fantasy fulfillment. I had been chatting with a woman from my area on-line who contacted me because of something I had written in my profile. She didn't tell me specifically until we actually met at a wine bar near her house. When… Read more

...jack off. That is if they have the ability to. Hint to women with spouses and boyfriends who are not showing interest in sex. They're either jacking off or getting it somewhere else. Take charge of your significant other's cock and lock it up in a chastity device when you're not using it. It a sure fire way that he will stay faithful as well as prevent him from wanking his monkey night and day instead of paying attention to you. In about 24 hours after you lock him he'll go from not wanting sex with you to begging for it. Guaranteed.… Read more

Are you dominant? Submissive? Switch? Are you a slave? Master? Mistress? Are you a kinkster? Fetishist? Vanilla? Sadist? Masochist? Are you straight? Gay? Lesbian? Bi? Hetero flexible? Pansexual? Asexual? Bi-curious? Skoliosexual? Are you a dyke? Butch? Queer? Faggot? Gay for pay? Beard? Are a male? Female? Transexual? Transvestite? Androgynous? Gender fluid? Bi-gender? Are you monogamous? Poly? Cuckold? Bull/Stud? Cuckoldress? Hotwife? Are you a top? Bottom? Both? Here's where I'm going with this. Labels can be helpful to… Read more

At the encouragement of one of my friends on this site, I took this test. Not really any surprises, but an interesting exercise. == Results from bdsmtest.org == 99% Degradee 99% Slave 99% Submissive 98% Rope bunny 96% Masochist 95% Primal (Prey) 86% Experimentalist 80% Pet 74% Exhibitionist 67% Girl/Boy 65% Non-monogamist 35% Brat 24% Voyeur 13% Ageplayer 5% Vanilla 4% Switch 3% Sadist 2% Degrader 1% Brat tamer 1% Daddy/Mommy 1% Owner 1% Primal (Hunter) 1% Rigger 0% Dominant 0% Master/Mistress… Read more

I had a hell of time Saturday afternoon with the pro Domme I saw. I was filled with anticipation because she had texted me about a "big surprise" she had for me. From the texts she sent me I thought the surprise was going to be a new big dildo, but it was much more than that. She runs her business out of her home which is a house on about two acres of land on the outskirts of the city. Plenty of privacy, and cries of pain and pleasure are only heard by her sadistic ears. The first and second times visited her, her husband was present in another room, but this time she was alone. In a… Read more

I have an appointment with a dominatrix at 2:00 pm today. I made the appointment early in the week so my mind has been racing these last few days. I have seen her before, so I kind of know what to expect. That doesn't make it any less exciting. She sent me three text messages this week. No other pro Domme in town does this, but she does and I love it. Call it the professional touch. She is never specific with her messages which is her was of maintaining discretion. Sometimes I can figure out what she means, other times I'm left in a state of curiosity. Yesterday it was simply "Dav… Read more

The submissive ache is back and I have booked a session Friday with a dominatrix I know who specializes in strapon domination. She's a little more expensive than some of the pro Dommes I see, but she is really good at what she does and a lot of the pro Dommes won't do strapon play. The last time I saw her she worked my ass so hard that I had a prostate orgasm without any genital stimulation. She also gives a hell of a reach-around if you ask her, but I digress. She's not a clock watcher, and I've found her to be worth every penny of the fee she charges. She loves what she does and it show… Read more

So yesterday afternoon I made an appointment with a dominatrix. I had an extensive conversation on the phone with her and she gave me general directions to her dungeon space which was located in North Dallas. Then when I was in close proximity I made a second call so I could get the final destination coordinates. To my surprise, she told me to find something to do for an hour and then call her back. She said my wait would be rewarded. There was a coffee shop nearby and I ordered a cup of jo to sip on while I killed time. It seemed like forever, but an hour passed and I called her back… Read more

The craving to submit usually starts in the evening, and then manifests itself in my dreams when I go to bed. By the time I wake up in morning it's pretty much in the front of my mind to stay until I do something about it. That's when it's time to visit a dominatrix, and that's the state I am in today. Yeah, it's insanity to spend my hard-earned money to get abused for an hour or two, but when the submissive ache is present it's like a d**g in my system. I can jack off and it will buy me a short break, but in twenty minutes it's back in the front of my mind again. As time passes my fantas… Read more

For those of you unfamiliar with munches, they are a meeting of like-minded people in the BDSM community. Usually they take place at a bar or restaurant or even coffee shops. The primary purpose is socializing, although some munches also have announcements or demonstrations from local organizations or individuals. Munches are meant to help those who are curious about BDSM meet others, become more comfortable, and better informed. Munches can also be a place to get advice, or pass on anecdotes about BDSM experiences. ..so I went to a munch last week, my first in over ten years. The last on… Read more