A submissive's Bill of Rights
I'll be tweaking these a bit here and there, but I found the source document on the Internet and wanted to post it with some long needed edits...
Since I have a lot of submissives who read my blogs I wanted them to know, you do have rights as a submissive and you deserve to have them respected. :)
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Submissive Bill Of Rights
You have the right to be treated with respect.
As a submissive you are not less than any other human being and you bring something special to a relationship. A Dominant needs your submission in order to be completed, as without you a Dominant is simply a man. You have the right to be treated with the respect for that special trait of submission you possess.
You have the right to be proud of what you are.
As a submissive you have the right and the duty to be proud of who you are. You need never feel shame for being submissive and should never allow anyone to diminish who or what you are.
You have the right to feel safe.
You have this right irrespective of whether you are submissive or a vanilla. You have the choice as a submissive to choose the man who will make you feel safe as this is your sole and exclusive choice. A submissive chooses her Dominant, a Dominant accepts or rejects a submissive based on her request but never should demand submission to him. You need never be in a position where fear is all you know or that you are being abused. Constant physical punishments, constant pain, or being mentally abused are not BDSM and you should never tolerate any of them. If you are, this means you have no one to blame but yourself if you do not approach your Dominant to get him to correct this behavior or leaving when you find that this is his style of dominance.
You have the right to your emotions and feelings.
As a submissive you have a right to your own feelings and to express them. It does not matter whether they are positive or negative, they need to be discussed whenever they happen for you. Submission does not work in the absence of communication. Your Dominant cannot hope to control your life and make good decisions that will not harm you if you do not share the feelings you are feeling.
You have the right to reject.
"No" never means that a dominant or master will stop anything, in every form of BDSM relationship it is preached that a submissive can say "No" but it doesn't mean that things should stop. With that being said, you have the right to reject an instruction, order, or scenario presented by your Dominant at any time. It is your responsibility to make sure that you do not do anything you do not want to and it is very important that a submissive discuss negative feelings or experiences with something with their Dominant in a respectful way so he can understand how something may impact you. Rejecting an instruction, order, or scenario should never be punished if it's done in a respectful way with valid reasons and suggestions on how a replacement item can be performed by the submissive for her Dominant's enjoyment.
You have the right to expect happiness in life.
Remember that you chose this lifestyle because you weren't happy with people who did not know how to handle your submission. Remember that you discovered great joy when you found out that you were not just needy or codependent. You have the right to enjoy this lifestyle and feel all the joy you are getting. It took guts to admit your submission and you are allowed to pick the fruits of honesty.
You have the right to have input in a relationship.
You have the right to communicate openly and honestly and to have say in any relationship - a relationship by definition is a two way street and should never be one sided. You need to make sure that you make your needs known and that you make sure that you are always present in the relationship. Submissives also have this right but they exercise it when they choose a Dominant or Master. Your needs, desires and wants should be discussed in detail before any collar is placed around your neck.
You have the right to be healthy.
In fact, you have a duty to be healthy. Health is a requirement for subs and this is not negotiable. You have to make sure that you are in a healthy relationship and that you do not get abused.
Since I have a lot of submissives who read my blogs I wanted them to know, you do have rights as a submissive and you deserve to have them respected. :)
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Submissive Bill Of Rights
You have the right to be treated with respect.
As a submissive you are not less than any other human being and you bring something special to a relationship. A Dominant needs your submission in order to be completed, as without you a Dominant is simply a man. You have the right to be treated with the respect for that special trait of submission you possess.
You have the right to be proud of what you are.
As a submissive you have the right and the duty to be proud of who you are. You need never feel shame for being submissive and should never allow anyone to diminish who or what you are.
You have the right to feel safe.
You have this right irrespective of whether you are submissive or a vanilla. You have the choice as a submissive to choose the man who will make you feel safe as this is your sole and exclusive choice. A submissive chooses her Dominant, a Dominant accepts or rejects a submissive based on her request but never should demand submission to him. You need never be in a position where fear is all you know or that you are being abused. Constant physical punishments, constant pain, or being mentally abused are not BDSM and you should never tolerate any of them. If you are, this means you have no one to blame but yourself if you do not approach your Dominant to get him to correct this behavior or leaving when you find that this is his style of dominance.
You have the right to your emotions and feelings.
As a submissive you have a right to your own feelings and to express them. It does not matter whether they are positive or negative, they need to be discussed whenever they happen for you. Submission does not work in the absence of communication. Your Dominant cannot hope to control your life and make good decisions that will not harm you if you do not share the feelings you are feeling.
You have the right to reject.
"No" never means that a dominant or master will stop anything, in every form of BDSM relationship it is preached that a submissive can say "No" but it doesn't mean that things should stop. With that being said, you have the right to reject an instruction, order, or scenario presented by your Dominant at any time. It is your responsibility to make sure that you do not do anything you do not want to and it is very important that a submissive discuss negative feelings or experiences with something with their Dominant in a respectful way so he can understand how something may impact you. Rejecting an instruction, order, or scenario should never be punished if it's done in a respectful way with valid reasons and suggestions on how a replacement item can be performed by the submissive for her Dominant's enjoyment.
You have the right to expect happiness in life.
Remember that you chose this lifestyle because you weren't happy with people who did not know how to handle your submission. Remember that you discovered great joy when you found out that you were not just needy or codependent. You have the right to enjoy this lifestyle and feel all the joy you are getting. It took guts to admit your submission and you are allowed to pick the fruits of honesty.
You have the right to have input in a relationship.
You have the right to communicate openly and honestly and to have say in any relationship - a relationship by definition is a two way street and should never be one sided. You need to make sure that you make your needs known and that you make sure that you are always present in the relationship. Submissives also have this right but they exercise it when they choose a Dominant or Master. Your needs, desires and wants should be discussed in detail before any collar is placed around your neck.
You have the right to be healthy.
In fact, you have a duty to be healthy. Health is a requirement for subs and this is not negotiable. You have to make sure that you are in a healthy relationship and that you do not get abused.
4 years ago
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