Blog : Fake Dom Follow-Up
First off, thanks to everyone who wrote in privately on that post, it was amazing to see the responses and support for saying what needed to be said. It's an inspiration to hear the supporting comments but also extremely sad to know that there have been so many girls who have had so many encounters with fakes and abusers like the ones I spoke about there.
Now, funniest thing happened this morning.
I got a message about the blog post, but this time it was from someone who said I was targeting him specifically with it.
In a word, 'Wow.'
I love it when abusive, fake 'Dominants' completely out themselves by attributing themselves to the issues and characteristics I post about. Perhaps there is some hope for people like that? If they can be honest enough to realize that what they are doing is causing pain and suffering to others that they work with, those who are too nervous, too afraid, or just too much of a 'good girl' to ever admit to them that they are, indeed, a shit, abusive, fake?
Sadly, most likely not. Instead of admitting their problem, no, this individual went on trying to say that I was indicating there is only one way to be a Dom and they were a different 'type' of Dominant. Sorry, but as I said in my response to that individual...
No, my way isn't the only way to Dominate a girl by any means, but at least the way I do things I don't leave lasting emotional scars or girls feeling that they are worthless behind. I spend my time helping girls grow, experience the depths of their submission in a way that they can enjoy it, feel it, ravel in it and WANT to continue it for years and years in their lives instead of spending evenings in tears wondering why they can't make someone happy. No it isn't the only way but over 25 years of training girls in real time and online has shown me that what I'm doing, how I Dominate a woman works and those who leave my service do so happy and remain friends, in contact, for years and even decades after I've helped them find what they needed and wanted in their BDSM lives.
I teach that everyone in the relationship deserves respect, both the Dominant and the submissive.
I teach a girl that she's a precious thing, not a toy to be used, abused, and thrown away after she breaks.
I teach that a relationship can't work when someone is only interested in playing mind games to get what they want from someone.
I teach that a BDSM relationship IS a relationship, which means it works two ways, with both parties giving and taking from it, not one party giving while the other takes.
I teach so much more than that, and I also teach one important thing...
I teach that I am not always right, that I am human just like everyone else and that I can make mistakes and fail just as easily as any submissive can...that I am here to grow with a girl that I'm working with just as she is growing with me.
So to that individual who I already responded to in private, and I'm not naming names so don't ask please... No, my way isn't the only way to be a Dominant, but my way is based in the core principals of BDSM that every single good, long standing, successful Dominant I've ever met have based their entire Dominant 'career/life' on.
I know I'm not infallible, I know I'm not perfect... I have accepted these facts and continue to grow and learn every single day to improve who I am as a person and as a Dominant. If a man cannot Master himself, can not control his mind, his body, his impulses, and his desires then he can never hope to control another, he can never truly be the Master of anyone.
The fact in life is that not every man can be a successful Dominant any more than every sub can be a successful sub. Too often we have these guys who want to be kinky thinking that being a 'Dominant' is their only way, no, it isn't. Find yourself a girlfriend who likes to be spanked, or likes to do a bit of pet play...
Be happy with what you are, just a kinky guy, this doesn't make you less of a man but indeed more of a man because you're not hurting anyone or possibly leaving some girl with psychological damage from being an abusive, fake Dom.
Now, funniest thing happened this morning.
I got a message about the blog post, but this time it was from someone who said I was targeting him specifically with it.
In a word, 'Wow.'
I love it when abusive, fake 'Dominants' completely out themselves by attributing themselves to the issues and characteristics I post about. Perhaps there is some hope for people like that? If they can be honest enough to realize that what they are doing is causing pain and suffering to others that they work with, those who are too nervous, too afraid, or just too much of a 'good girl' to ever admit to them that they are, indeed, a shit, abusive, fake?
Sadly, most likely not. Instead of admitting their problem, no, this individual went on trying to say that I was indicating there is only one way to be a Dom and they were a different 'type' of Dominant. Sorry, but as I said in my response to that individual...
No, my way isn't the only way to Dominate a girl by any means, but at least the way I do things I don't leave lasting emotional scars or girls feeling that they are worthless behind. I spend my time helping girls grow, experience the depths of their submission in a way that they can enjoy it, feel it, ravel in it and WANT to continue it for years and years in their lives instead of spending evenings in tears wondering why they can't make someone happy. No it isn't the only way but over 25 years of training girls in real time and online has shown me that what I'm doing, how I Dominate a woman works and those who leave my service do so happy and remain friends, in contact, for years and even decades after I've helped them find what they needed and wanted in their BDSM lives.
I teach that everyone in the relationship deserves respect, both the Dominant and the submissive.
I teach a girl that she's a precious thing, not a toy to be used, abused, and thrown away after she breaks.
I teach that a relationship can't work when someone is only interested in playing mind games to get what they want from someone.
I teach that a BDSM relationship IS a relationship, which means it works two ways, with both parties giving and taking from it, not one party giving while the other takes.
I teach so much more than that, and I also teach one important thing...
I teach that I am not always right, that I am human just like everyone else and that I can make mistakes and fail just as easily as any submissive can...that I am here to grow with a girl that I'm working with just as she is growing with me.
So to that individual who I already responded to in private, and I'm not naming names so don't ask please... No, my way isn't the only way to be a Dominant, but my way is based in the core principals of BDSM that every single good, long standing, successful Dominant I've ever met have based their entire Dominant 'career/life' on.
I know I'm not infallible, I know I'm not perfect... I have accepted these facts and continue to grow and learn every single day to improve who I am as a person and as a Dominant. If a man cannot Master himself, can not control his mind, his body, his impulses, and his desires then he can never hope to control another, he can never truly be the Master of anyone.
The fact in life is that not every man can be a successful Dominant any more than every sub can be a successful sub. Too often we have these guys who want to be kinky thinking that being a 'Dominant' is their only way, no, it isn't. Find yourself a girlfriend who likes to be spanked, or likes to do a bit of pet play...
Be happy with what you are, just a kinky guy, this doesn't make you less of a man but indeed more of a man because you're not hurting anyone or possibly leaving some girl with psychological damage from being an abusive, fake Dom.
5 years ago
