Limits and Pushing Them
The limits the sub set for them before submitting me are key factors to measure the training progress of a beginner to a later stage. No matter what my sub set the limits but purely depends on me to work out different ways to bring them up to the next level and presenting themselves for the next time with a new sets of limits. But before that the most important factor I always take care of is that her interests and urges to do so. Being aggressive and pulling up some slave training books and following those guidelines will not prove anything but damage. Before starting the training process I make sure I study her thoroughly and then set my own ways to start up and gradually push her to the next level.
Before I took over a sub, I always listen to her very carefully about her likes/dislikes which actually help me to figure out her soft and hard limits. Many a times I found a new partner not really knowing much about their limits gets confused and say yes to some very hard stuffs but say no for some simple acts. At any cost I don’t let her feel that she is unworthy/wimp as she is a newbie which will force her to take wrong decisions in urge to prove she is the best. Here comes the crucial role of the master, and a deep study on her every movement, actions, body language, communications etc will help him to a conclusion and will create a right environment and the right act.
Once session starts with soft limits, I reevaluate the entire act to judge over her performance and will focus on those parts where she found more close and could further carry on for the next level but not really in a stage to accept the challenge. So this is the hard limit. (For example….a sub loves palm spanking but afraid of canes….the reason behind this….cane strokes are more intense as it covers a less area of her skin while in contact…..i would definitely not try a cane first but an wooden paddle which covers more area on her skin than a cane but less of a palm….will start with slow spanking and will gradually make it harder……and once she cope up with the intensity of pain by the paddle the next item I will use is the cane…..,)
To find out the edge between soft to hard limits I always keep a close watch on her every reaction, of her body parts, her expression and her feelings while the session is going on. It’s very important to see whether the sub undergoing the session is enjoying the act with pleasure if not she will never be able to come up on the edge and try the other next level. A regular switching of mind, dragging her concentration away from a definite part of her body and forcing her to concentrate on the other parts will give her time to cope up with the existing impact of pain and will allow her to carry on a bit further. A verbal humiliation basically helps a lot in this case, where I love to challenge the sub and this challenge will bring more impact on to her mind so that she don’t surrender so easily and will give her 100 % to carry out the scene and finally the limit is pushed a little ahead slowly raising the tolerance threshold and raising the limits.
A right environment, a right scene, a right communication helps a lot in shaping out the soft limits to a hard limits. Too much harsh and rash behavior of a master even spoils up the show. At any point of time the sub should not be left to feel that she has landed up in a wrong hand and that will create panic which will prove negative. I feel in between any sessions, a soft, and loving and caring words or actions helps a lot to portrait the right picture of her master leads to Trust, Faith and Respect. But again a lenient and too much of permissive behavior also prove dangerous as it will never bring the right gestures to submit. More clement words will never attract her master’s presence and will not give her the feel to respect her master.
To conclude limits are very important for both the sub and dom. It always keeps the sub away from danger and also helps the dom to justify over a sub and push her limits but not necessary every limits can be pushed up as there are certain things which cannot be crossed at all. Even I do believe I have got my own limits and whenever I find my partner wanted me to play with those stuffs which I am not confident and didn’t find any interest in them I deny it very straight and will never take a second call on them.
Before I took over a sub, I always listen to her very carefully about her likes/dislikes which actually help me to figure out her soft and hard limits. Many a times I found a new partner not really knowing much about their limits gets confused and say yes to some very hard stuffs but say no for some simple acts. At any cost I don’t let her feel that she is unworthy/wimp as she is a newbie which will force her to take wrong decisions in urge to prove she is the best. Here comes the crucial role of the master, and a deep study on her every movement, actions, body language, communications etc will help him to a conclusion and will create a right environment and the right act.
Once session starts with soft limits, I reevaluate the entire act to judge over her performance and will focus on those parts where she found more close and could further carry on for the next level but not really in a stage to accept the challenge. So this is the hard limit. (For example….a sub loves palm spanking but afraid of canes….the reason behind this….cane strokes are more intense as it covers a less area of her skin while in contact…..i would definitely not try a cane first but an wooden paddle which covers more area on her skin than a cane but less of a palm….will start with slow spanking and will gradually make it harder……and once she cope up with the intensity of pain by the paddle the next item I will use is the cane…..,)
To find out the edge between soft to hard limits I always keep a close watch on her every reaction, of her body parts, her expression and her feelings while the session is going on. It’s very important to see whether the sub undergoing the session is enjoying the act with pleasure if not she will never be able to come up on the edge and try the other next level. A regular switching of mind, dragging her concentration away from a definite part of her body and forcing her to concentrate on the other parts will give her time to cope up with the existing impact of pain and will allow her to carry on a bit further. A verbal humiliation basically helps a lot in this case, where I love to challenge the sub and this challenge will bring more impact on to her mind so that she don’t surrender so easily and will give her 100 % to carry out the scene and finally the limit is pushed a little ahead slowly raising the tolerance threshold and raising the limits.
A right environment, a right scene, a right communication helps a lot in shaping out the soft limits to a hard limits. Too much harsh and rash behavior of a master even spoils up the show. At any point of time the sub should not be left to feel that she has landed up in a wrong hand and that will create panic which will prove negative. I feel in between any sessions, a soft, and loving and caring words or actions helps a lot to portrait the right picture of her master leads to Trust, Faith and Respect. But again a lenient and too much of permissive behavior also prove dangerous as it will never bring the right gestures to submit. More clement words will never attract her master’s presence and will not give her the feel to respect her master.
To conclude limits are very important for both the sub and dom. It always keeps the sub away from danger and also helps the dom to justify over a sub and push her limits but not necessary every limits can be pushed up as there are certain things which cannot be crossed at all. Even I do believe I have got my own limits and whenever I find my partner wanted me to play with those stuffs which I am not confident and didn’t find any interest in them I deny it very straight and will never take a second call on them.
5 years ago
