Ideal World Vs Real World
This is from a news item about the "alarming" trend of snapping candid pics of women & uploading them to the internet. It's a few years old, but speaks to an issue that's very much relevant today. I removed the woman's name to spare her any more suffering (he said, fighting hard to rein in his sarcasm):
It was a photograph that was never supposed to be taken.
[name redacted] was at a party wearing a black dress. She was topless and dancing on a pole.
The photo was posted by her ex-boyfriend on Reddit’s r/pics, a forum on the site’s default front page that has millions of subscribers and even more monthly visitors.
[name redacted], 25, was stunned. This wasn’t the way she wanted to end 2008. The photo had collected more than 200 comments. Her face was clearly visible. She wanted it taken down, but that wouldn’t be easy.
“I was asked to prove who I was, via more photos, in order for it to be taken down,” [name redacted] told me Monday night on Facebook. “That made me angry.”
So... here we have a woman who gets into the party spirit, does a pole dance with her tits out, & is outraged because someone took a photo & uploaded it to the internet? It's at this point that we come to a divergence in the way men & women view such an incident.
This reminds me of my visit to our Folsom Street Fair last year. Many women were walking in the street topless, & considered it "very rude" of anyone to snap a picture of them without asking first.
It seems that women have the idea that they should be allowed to have some harmless fun without worrying about one of us pigs snapping a pic & circulating it. What they don't get about us is that when they decide to dance topless, or walk around in public naked, this constitutes a major life event for us men.
Whether we're conditioned to this response, or whether it's just our nature, this is, not to put too fine a point on it, a Big Deal! Given the current widespread use of smart phones with cameras included, & the easy availability of digital cameras, it's only human nature for us to want to grab a picture, or to shoot some video.
All this aside, when considered from a legal standpoint, someone who dances topless at a party, or walks around in public with her private parts visible or revealed by scanty or clinging clothing, doesn't have what's been termed a "reasonable expectation of privacy".
Saying "this photograph was never supposed to be taken" leads me to ask "in whose opinion?" My agenda here is obvious. I shoot candid videos of women who are dressed (or undressed) to show off their bodies in an erotic fashion. To say they have a right to dress & show off in public that way, & I don't have a right to shoot a video, or take a photograph, is to ignore a fundamental reality of the way the world works.
Yeah, it would be nice if you were allowed to do whatever you wanted without consequences, but it just doesn't work that way. How about a suggestion: avoid getting stinko & dancing topless at a party, or put on pants that don't cling like a second skin over your thong underwear as you strut your stuff in public. Or stay covered up when attending a clothing-optional special event.
If you've been following my stuff, you may have noticed that I don't use terms like "bitch" or "slut" to describe my "stars". At heart I like women more than I like men. I think women have, in some ways, a better grasp on what it takes to be a human being. But OMG, this tendency to cling to the vision of an ideal world, & to get upset when reality doesn't match up to it, gets my goat big-time.
It was a photograph that was never supposed to be taken.
[name redacted] was at a party wearing a black dress. She was topless and dancing on a pole.
The photo was posted by her ex-boyfriend on Reddit’s r/pics, a forum on the site’s default front page that has millions of subscribers and even more monthly visitors.
[name redacted], 25, was stunned. This wasn’t the way she wanted to end 2008. The photo had collected more than 200 comments. Her face was clearly visible. She wanted it taken down, but that wouldn’t be easy.
“I was asked to prove who I was, via more photos, in order for it to be taken down,” [name redacted] told me Monday night on Facebook. “That made me angry.”
So... here we have a woman who gets into the party spirit, does a pole dance with her tits out, & is outraged because someone took a photo & uploaded it to the internet? It's at this point that we come to a divergence in the way men & women view such an incident.
This reminds me of my visit to our Folsom Street Fair last year. Many women were walking in the street topless, & considered it "very rude" of anyone to snap a picture of them without asking first.
It seems that women have the idea that they should be allowed to have some harmless fun without worrying about one of us pigs snapping a pic & circulating it. What they don't get about us is that when they decide to dance topless, or walk around in public naked, this constitutes a major life event for us men.
Whether we're conditioned to this response, or whether it's just our nature, this is, not to put too fine a point on it, a Big Deal! Given the current widespread use of smart phones with cameras included, & the easy availability of digital cameras, it's only human nature for us to want to grab a picture, or to shoot some video.
All this aside, when considered from a legal standpoint, someone who dances topless at a party, or walks around in public with her private parts visible or revealed by scanty or clinging clothing, doesn't have what's been termed a "reasonable expectation of privacy".
Saying "this photograph was never supposed to be taken" leads me to ask "in whose opinion?" My agenda here is obvious. I shoot candid videos of women who are dressed (or undressed) to show off their bodies in an erotic fashion. To say they have a right to dress & show off in public that way, & I don't have a right to shoot a video, or take a photograph, is to ignore a fundamental reality of the way the world works.
Yeah, it would be nice if you were allowed to do whatever you wanted without consequences, but it just doesn't work that way. How about a suggestion: avoid getting stinko & dancing topless at a party, or put on pants that don't cling like a second skin over your thong underwear as you strut your stuff in public. Or stay covered up when attending a clothing-optional special event.
If you've been following my stuff, you may have noticed that I don't use terms like "bitch" or "slut" to describe my "stars". At heart I like women more than I like men. I think women have, in some ways, a better grasp on what it takes to be a human being. But OMG, this tendency to cling to the vision of an ideal world, & to get upset when reality doesn't match up to it, gets my goat big-time.
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