Handjobs as soft-femdom

Am I alone in feeling handjobs fall into the realm of soft femdom, even when the lady giving it is undressed? Can only speak for myself, but when a lady uncovers even just her breasts in my company, it’s enough to distract and throw me off my guard even in my most stoic and dilligent moments, and whenever a girl has even so much as gently brushed her fingers against my erection, I’ve felt totally under her controll.