Why do people lie?

It is a question that has bugged me forever.

First and foremost...I am just going to write from my heart. Some of these may be boring to you. I don't know. Maybe some of you are going through what I am? Or may do in the future? I hope not. I hope that your marriage is as fulfilling as you thought it would be.

Anyway....back to my question....why do people lie? To hide the truth? Sometimes....To hurt someone? That would be pretty much a cruel thing to do. But cruel people are everywhere.

I think that some people lie for one reason. ....Because the truth can be boring...

Now, some of you might be confused...let me explain...

I am not a slut, a whore or cum drinking slag....sorry to disappoint. I don't do Gangbangs and don't take part in Bukkake's. I do not think about Sex all day. In fact some days I don't think about Sex at all. I am sure some of you will stop reading now. That is fine. But what I am is a down to earth woman who respects everyone. Some people say that respect is earned. I don't believe in that. I respect everyone until they lose my respect.

To some people I will be boring. I can accept that. The truth can be boring remember. I will always be boring then. And that is something I can live with.

So you might question why am I here then...And that is a valid question. I don't watch the movies on here or read the stories. So why am I here? To find the spark? you could say that...It took me ages in deciding to post here. The more I though about it, the more I wanted to. I was very nervous posting my photo's here, I had a feeling deep pain in the pit of my stomach..but it was not unpleasant, it was more of the kind you get from excitement. And, yes I read everyone of the comments people write, and I can not thankyou enough for the kind words that you guys have bestowed upon me.

Have I lost that spark? Yes, I have mentioned it in my profile. Can you ever find it again? Maybe...I'm not sure..

So why am I here? Maybe one day I will find out. ....

Published by _Mrs_K

7 years ago

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Naughtykinky40 3 years ago

People lie because they are self focused and selfish individuals. Let me explain, they lie to their partner to tell them what they want to hear so the won’t loose their partner, truth is that they are lying to them selves and know on the inside their lives are not similarly interested anymore and they have different goals leading to different path but to save and keep the relationship going and not loosing the partner who obviously adds value to the lying individual, they will lie.

_Mrs_K Publisher 6 years ago

to HopefullyYours : Well dont..proud of you hun xx thanks x

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That's interesting.... I didn't finish typing and my message was posted. Anyway... to get to the point of why people lie, I think it is because they probably want more excitement in their life. Unfortunately, it backfires on them when the lie becomes a reality. Another reason for a lie could be to hide something from a loved one that you know will hurt them if you told them, but in reality they normally find out in the end anyway. Hugs. x

Sometimes things can go stale and you have to keep that spark alive. I have always been a big believer in involving your partner in everything, but it's not always possible as I have witnessed many times over. I have never cheated on anyone, but I have always been there for people who have. I think it's the excitement that's involved. Knowing that someone else wants you and knowing that it's an exciting challenge. I turned down a few offers during my 10 year relationship. I look back now and think, WHAT IF? I think it was the fact that I had been around work colleages who were so upset after they had done what they did that it made me realise I did not want to go through the same thing.

1daymayb 6 years ago

Your spark is probably affected by multiple things. You want to feel desirable and at this point your hubby isn't making you feel this. You know that to seek a partner to give you that feeling would not fit with your view of who you are. Posing on here, you can be almost anonymous. Men and women can express their feelings of desire and who doesn't feel a little flutter when they are told they are found sexy and desirable. However, I doubt that this is the only reason you feel something is missing.

I chatted with a woman who started off saying she was deeply in love with her hubby and he was her soul mate, after much general chat she admitted she was unhappy after a major event in their lives. She posted on some amateur sites and lapped up the atention for a short period befoer deleting her profile. She met me and said we should be together, then met another guy (i said it turnerd me on, but found out when she had done that it didn't). Meeting the other guy was the big turning point. She realised she did love her hubby and felt guilty for what she had done. She appears to have finally found her spark, her "balance" in her life and is happy.

Now what works for one may not for another because the reason you feel you are missing "something" may be down to completely different circumstances. I sincerely hope that at some point you find what you are seeking, even thought you aren't sure what that is. I also hope that things work out between you and your hubby because finding someone special is one thing but being able to share your whole life with that person is something we seem to find more and more difficult to do x

Agreed hamster is fun diversion from the mundane daily lives we lead , and brings that spark a tinge of brief excitement..In my years as a member the most excitement I get his finding interesting members from around the world to chat about anything( which is rather difficult to find )..Its and open book of possibilities. With the added theme of talking about sex.

snsmis 7 years ago

I think most of us are here because our lives are boring or that we have realised that we are with the wrong person but dont want to leave because of children or economics. I know what you mean about looking for the spark I hope one day to find mine again also. If you want to talk drop me a pm and I can send you my email. We dont need to talk about sex its fun but not as important as friendship and mutual support

_Mrs_K Publisher 7 years ago

You think? x

roy_13 7 years ago

I think most of us are in the same boat. So far my biggest lie is coming on here and chatting to few people who I know for a while now and Mrs doesn't know about it.
Thought for s moment it was my story lol

fannylicker57 7 years ago

Curiousness and intrigue brings most of us here, the rest is between those who choose to chat and play together. I believe in honesty also, whatever is asked, I answer with truth and sincerity

I hope you find it, maybe I can help you in your search

Thats a very different piece of writing for xhamster and i like the things that make it unique. Unfortunately some people do lie both here and in life. I would like to add more as at the very least its a very interesting topic to discuss and one i suspect has many answers. i will try and write a pm that though might not provide an answer as to why people lie, will at least show my opinion on the matter, If that is Mrs K would like to know

_Mrs_K Publisher 7 years ago

to Skyflyer72 : Thankyou veru much

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_Mrs_K Publisher 7 years ago

to dinopix30 : Thankyou....I like your honesty

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dinopix30 7 years ago

Refreshingly honest, but not sure what you mean by the 'spark' as to me, that sounds more like a relationship, romance thing? You say you love your husband so I don't feel you want to cheat on him. I'm not married but am sexually frustrated so like most people come here to view the pornography and masturbate, and why not, this is a porn site after all. Some people want real meets, but not me. I do enjoy chatting to woman of all ages who like to masturbate and have a few regular friends, some young and single and some married and frustrated. Anyway, I hope you find what you are looking for

scotlandmyhome 7 years ago

very honest and a change from the ushall stuff people right on here. hope u enjoy ur time here and find the spark u are looking for

I don't know why people lie. Escapism I guess. Be something or somebody else. Honestly its a mystery to me too

geofers1 7 years ago

Well I hope you have a few laughs and fun on here, and now and again you get a a conversation which make your heart flutter for a while and makes you smile ?
It should be fun here x

labdog79 7 years ago

what a lovely refreshing change to meet someone honest on here, hope you find what your seeking on here

i feel what your saying, sometimes you gotta do something unexpected to tingle old feelings or even the spark! it'll happen ... give it time xx

karachicock4sex 7 years ago

You're not alone in how you feel. There are all types of people on this site. I think you well get that spark you desire. I have to you're absolutely gorgeous in your photos even if the face is missing.

Skyflyer72 7 years ago

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Skyflyer72
Reading your blog, very honest and truthful...
I definitely won't say you are boring, many of us are on here for the same reasons as you, so totally understand where you are coming from.
It's brave what you are doing on here, just like me,. But it's exciting too.. talking to strangers sometimes, adds buzz.

Sparks will happen,.. enjoy on here, chat,.and make genuine friends for same reasons.

Of course, be aware, as you say,,. Many do lie on here, for whatever reasons, lots of fake profiles etc

But stay very discreet, and don't reveal to much to soon to an extent.

Have fun

croeso 7 years ago

'why do people lie' is a very broad and general question and it will be a very difficult task to give a straightforward answer for that. But generally speaking (and simplifying) i'd say to promote the best consequences (and/or most pleasure) for very selfish reasons - because behind that lie lies some interest, passion, intention, agenda, whatever...the point is people lie because they want achieve 'the best consequences' for themselves

rajj08 7 years ago

A lie is a sense of insecurity...but the light inside is the spark that holds the truth x

_Mrs_K Publisher 7 years ago

to I-like-to-watch : Thankyou....you are a gem

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Elegies 7 years ago

Can totally relate to that. I don't think you're alone in why your on here or what you feel about it.x

I-like-to-watch 7 years ago

Your honesty is to be respected, both your profile and this post display that, and I hope you will find those genuine people who will respect your honesty and offer their own. This site has become more and more about fake profiles and those who are not able to be themselves and hide behind what they wish they were, however there are still those who will be honest and leave pretence at the door on the way in. I hope they will also become your friends, and fulfil a little of what you miss, even if only in an online fashion.

spuzz 7 years ago

Well Mrs K, good luck in finding what it is your looking for (on the her as well as IRL) I suspect that you have increased your chances by saying it out loud. And that's the truth...xx

Olliedom 7 years ago

I know what you mean- you can want for erotic excitement and not be a slut.

With men it can be the same- I want to find one nice person to chat with, flirt with and who knows what else with, but the immediate assumption is that as a man on here I want to shag everything that moves and will do or say anything to make that happen.

So ignore the idiots

favorite_comments 7 years ago

In a post about lies, you have uncovered some real truths. The reasons for lying ranges as the people creating the lies. It's a tool to get a means to an end , a coping mechanism to deal with unpleasant experiences, and for some, that repetition becomes their truth.