So ya wanna get into this...
I get told pretty frequently by guys that they want to get into this lifestyle but they are afraid to ask their wives/SO.
The way I see it you have two choices. You either keep on saying nothing and stay in the closet or you open up and start communicating with your partner. I’m not suggesting you let it all hang out at once. It’s a slippery slope and you don’t want to take the chair up to the top and jump on the black diamond slope right off the bat.
Ask her what her fantasies are and maybe role play one out for her, even if it has nothing to do with your fantasy. You are setting the stage maybe you’ll even discover that you liked her fantasy too.
Did you cum to fast? Is she unsatisfied? Dive down there and start licking. Despite initial protests she’l probably like it and maybe she’ll even start asking you to do it.
***A note about cum and taste. it’s not all the same. If it tastes disgusting it probably has to do with diet and smoking tobacco. I didn’t like the taste of cum for a long time, my own cum tasted horrible to me but I had a buddy that shot huge loads in my ex and when I went down there it was delicious. It wasn’t until I quit smoking that I discovered my own cum wasn’t that bad. My old buddy never smoked tobacco, something to think about.
So back to the “how do I…?”.
Once you’ve acted out a few of her fantasies she’ll probably be curious about yours. Maybe you tell her you fantasized about coming home and finding her well fucked and full of some other man’s cum. Maybe you buy some nice toys and practice some fucklicking and/or dp. Maybe you find a buddy to jerk off with and you guys conspire to set something up.
Listen to your SO though, if she/he complains or voices their displeasure then you have to back off. It’s just as important to respect peoples boundaries as it is to be honest. It’s OK though to push those boundaries because that’s how you discover new things about each other.
my 2 cents
The way I see it you have two choices. You either keep on saying nothing and stay in the closet or you open up and start communicating with your partner. I’m not suggesting you let it all hang out at once. It’s a slippery slope and you don’t want to take the chair up to the top and jump on the black diamond slope right off the bat.
Ask her what her fantasies are and maybe role play one out for her, even if it has nothing to do with your fantasy. You are setting the stage maybe you’ll even discover that you liked her fantasy too.
Did you cum to fast? Is she unsatisfied? Dive down there and start licking. Despite initial protests she’l probably like it and maybe she’ll even start asking you to do it.
***A note about cum and taste. it’s not all the same. If it tastes disgusting it probably has to do with diet and smoking tobacco. I didn’t like the taste of cum for a long time, my own cum tasted horrible to me but I had a buddy that shot huge loads in my ex and when I went down there it was delicious. It wasn’t until I quit smoking that I discovered my own cum wasn’t that bad. My old buddy never smoked tobacco, something to think about.
So back to the “how do I…?”.
Once you’ve acted out a few of her fantasies she’ll probably be curious about yours. Maybe you tell her you fantasized about coming home and finding her well fucked and full of some other man’s cum. Maybe you buy some nice toys and practice some fucklicking and/or dp. Maybe you find a buddy to jerk off with and you guys conspire to set something up.
Listen to your SO though, if she/he complains or voices their displeasure then you have to back off. It’s just as important to respect peoples boundaries as it is to be honest. It’s OK though to push those boundaries because that’s how you discover new things about each other.
my 2 cents
8 years ago
