The Definitive Guide to Anal
Okay xhamstas, as I offer sex and swinging advice, I thought I’d write this blog in particular as it’s ALWAYS the one subject that comes up in conversation. And it’s always the same statements or questions: “How do I get my partner to do it?”, “Will I/my partner get hurt?”, “how much lube should we use” – the list is endless.
So, here it is. The DEFINITIVE guide to Anal Sex.
What qualifies me to tell you about this? I have been swinging on and off since 1985. I got introduced to it by a, then, new girlfriend called Nikki who had previously done about a dozen scenes across ten films. That was in 1983 when it was a BIG deal – not like today. Before I met her, I had tried to do anal with previous partners fairly unsuccessfully to be honest. It either hurt her (or me!), neither of us got any real sensation from it and so on. So, when I met Nikki it was a revelation! She taught me this way of going about it and, I am pleased to report, it has served me very well in the years since. At times, I have almost become known as a bit of an ‘Anal Guru’ ;-)
So, if you’ve never done anal before:-
A lot of people make one basic mistake with anal that often leads to it hurting the woman, and putting her off permanently, or – much worse – physical injury. I met a couple (not swingers) who had tried it and she ended up in hospital with a bad tear to her large colon. So beware!!
Here is the method I was taught by Nikki, the ex porn actress, and it’s the way many porn actors still use today to ‘warm up’ for an anal scene.
This is what you do:-
1. Make sure you have lube – and plenty of it. If the bottle is near the bottom, then get a fresh one!
2. Choose lube CAREFULLY – DO NOT, repeat, DO NOT use lubes with ‘numbing agents’ such as Benzocaine in them – they numb the anus, colon and the guys cock and, if things are going wrong OR getting dangerous, you won’t know until it’s too late. If you’re in the UK, Ann Summers shops sell their ‘Booty Relax Anal Lube’ – this is the BEST one I have ever found and use it regularly. It has a large percentage of silicone in it and it let’s things slide quite nicely... ;-) Remember something – experienced Porn Actors stay well clear of lubes with numbing agents. They can be fucking anally ALL DAY and they NEED to know if things aren’t right as it could end their career (it has in some cases!), so take a tip from them, eh?
3. Avoid dangerous locations and positions! If it’s your first time, do NOT try to do anal in the doggie position – and certainly do NOT EVER try to do it on a mattress. It is CRUCIAL that the guy cannot move, and that the girl is in control of the degree of penetration at all times
4. Here’s what I found best:- The guy lays on the floor and wanks himself up as hard as he can manage – if you CANNOT achieve a solid erection, do NOT attempt anal. Wait until you can. Next the guy needs to lube his cock up PROPERLY – use twice as much as you think you need!! Then the girl needs to be lubed up too – guys, be gentlemen and do this for your woman!!!
5. Next, the girl stands over the guy in reverse cow girl position – ie. With her back to his face. She then squats down over his cock. Steadying herself, she lowers herself onto the tip ONLY and then pauses.....
6. THIS NEXT STATEMENT IS CRUCIAL!! Then she needs to push like she is having a dump! This will open the sphincter and allows her to get the head of the guys cock into her arsehole MUCH more easily. She should only pop the head in first and NOT attempt to lower herself down his shaft until she is COMPLETELY happy.
7. Next, she lowers herself down his cock as slow or quickly as she feels comfortable with. She might want to go the whole way, half way or just take it real slow. Whatever SHE feels comfortable with guys, YOU HAVE to go with it! Don’t let excitement get the better of you and grab her hips and start thrusting her up and down or you’ll stand a REALY good chance of putting her right off!!
8. Let the girl set the pace for thrusting up and down on your cock – the guy needs to concentrate on keeping his cock as hard as possible. She’ll let you know soon enough when she is comfortable with it.
9. If she is NOT comfortable – STOP!!!!!! DO NOT try to persuade her to continue just cos YOU want to get your rocks off. If you do that, it could well be the one and only time you get to fuck her up the arse!
10. Don’t be in a rush to change position – let HER tell you when she wants to change. Have a bit of patience and she’ll soon want to get more comfortable. Then you can get on the bed, try a different position, and hopefully achieve the result you BOTH want.
Now, without bigging myself up, I have been blessed with a very ‘above average’ girth cock. It’s a genuine six inches, so a lot of women baulk at the thought of even trying anal with me – let alone actually doing it, but the above method has proved successful in the majority of cases and I can say, proudly, that I have taken many women from being anal virgins to fully-addicted anal fanatics in less than 20 mins, just by taking my time and keeping to the steps above.
Try it – you’ll be amazed!
Now – one thing I want to dispel here and now. The guy generally gets LESS out of anal than the woman. Guys, this is a FACT. Nature did NOT give you a pad of hormone-releasing tissue in your cock! But it DID give women such a spot between their vagina and anus. It is this which gives the woman a HUGE (and I do mean H-U-G-E orgasm from anal!!) and, if you take your time, try different positions and find the right angle for your cock to enter her arse, then she’ll love you forever!
You need to be aiming to press on this pad with the head of your cock as you are thrusting into her arse – this is why you need to try different positions until you find the right one which works for both of you.
One partner I did this with a couple of years ago had NEVER experienced a natural orgasm through vaginal sex, but after half an hours experimenting with a few different positions, she came so hard, fast and large that she ended up in tears of happiness. Needless to say she want a LOT more anal after that... ;-)
Although we all look roughly the same, it’s amazing how differently put together we all are. Some women will achieve anal orgasm through doggie style, some through missionary, some spoons etc etc – the two of you have to find what works for you. Don’t get frustrated that your woman can’t orgasm the way you want her to. You’ve got to ask yourself what you’re doing this for? YOUR gratification, or the pleasure of both of you? I know what I prefer...
Anal Sex Health Considerations:-
You must pay attention to this and not think that you can take the risks you see in porn films. A lot of nasty bacteria live in our arses! They are there for a reason and they are not meant to be present anywhere else in our bodies – for the woman, they should especially NOT find their way into her vagina.
Arse to Mouth (ATM) can also be very dangerous. Whilst a lot of guys get really turned on by the thought of fucking a girl up her arse, then getting her to suck their cock clean immediately after, you need to ask yourself something: If this is your girlfriend/wife/partner, how are you going to feel when she has to go to the doctors to get treatment for the infections that can result and she has to tell the Doctor how she got them????
So, to stay safe for both of you, you need to pay attention to hygiene immediately post-anal. If you do want to go straight into vaginal or oral sex, at least have a some anti-bacterial wipes handy and clean your cock up! DON’T use a wet flannel or anything like that as it may not be as ‘clean’ as you think!!
Remember – what you see in porn movies is make-believe. They are professional actors who are paid to take the risks, and who are checked regularly. By all means enjoy anal, but stay safe and healthy.
Any specific questions? Drop me a message and I’ll do my best to offer an answer.
The Phoenixman.
So, here it is. The DEFINITIVE guide to Anal Sex.
What qualifies me to tell you about this? I have been swinging on and off since 1985. I got introduced to it by a, then, new girlfriend called Nikki who had previously done about a dozen scenes across ten films. That was in 1983 when it was a BIG deal – not like today. Before I met her, I had tried to do anal with previous partners fairly unsuccessfully to be honest. It either hurt her (or me!), neither of us got any real sensation from it and so on. So, when I met Nikki it was a revelation! She taught me this way of going about it and, I am pleased to report, it has served me very well in the years since. At times, I have almost become known as a bit of an ‘Anal Guru’ ;-)
So, if you’ve never done anal before:-
A lot of people make one basic mistake with anal that often leads to it hurting the woman, and putting her off permanently, or – much worse – physical injury. I met a couple (not swingers) who had tried it and she ended up in hospital with a bad tear to her large colon. So beware!!
Here is the method I was taught by Nikki, the ex porn actress, and it’s the way many porn actors still use today to ‘warm up’ for an anal scene.
This is what you do:-
1. Make sure you have lube – and plenty of it. If the bottle is near the bottom, then get a fresh one!
2. Choose lube CAREFULLY – DO NOT, repeat, DO NOT use lubes with ‘numbing agents’ such as Benzocaine in them – they numb the anus, colon and the guys cock and, if things are going wrong OR getting dangerous, you won’t know until it’s too late. If you’re in the UK, Ann Summers shops sell their ‘Booty Relax Anal Lube’ – this is the BEST one I have ever found and use it regularly. It has a large percentage of silicone in it and it let’s things slide quite nicely... ;-) Remember something – experienced Porn Actors stay well clear of lubes with numbing agents. They can be fucking anally ALL DAY and they NEED to know if things aren’t right as it could end their career (it has in some cases!), so take a tip from them, eh?
3. Avoid dangerous locations and positions! If it’s your first time, do NOT try to do anal in the doggie position – and certainly do NOT EVER try to do it on a mattress. It is CRUCIAL that the guy cannot move, and that the girl is in control of the degree of penetration at all times
4. Here’s what I found best:- The guy lays on the floor and wanks himself up as hard as he can manage – if you CANNOT achieve a solid erection, do NOT attempt anal. Wait until you can. Next the guy needs to lube his cock up PROPERLY – use twice as much as you think you need!! Then the girl needs to be lubed up too – guys, be gentlemen and do this for your woman!!!
5. Next, the girl stands over the guy in reverse cow girl position – ie. With her back to his face. She then squats down over his cock. Steadying herself, she lowers herself onto the tip ONLY and then pauses.....
6. THIS NEXT STATEMENT IS CRUCIAL!! Then she needs to push like she is having a dump! This will open the sphincter and allows her to get the head of the guys cock into her arsehole MUCH more easily. She should only pop the head in first and NOT attempt to lower herself down his shaft until she is COMPLETELY happy.
7. Next, she lowers herself down his cock as slow or quickly as she feels comfortable with. She might want to go the whole way, half way or just take it real slow. Whatever SHE feels comfortable with guys, YOU HAVE to go with it! Don’t let excitement get the better of you and grab her hips and start thrusting her up and down or you’ll stand a REALY good chance of putting her right off!!
8. Let the girl set the pace for thrusting up and down on your cock – the guy needs to concentrate on keeping his cock as hard as possible. She’ll let you know soon enough when she is comfortable with it.
9. If she is NOT comfortable – STOP!!!!!! DO NOT try to persuade her to continue just cos YOU want to get your rocks off. If you do that, it could well be the one and only time you get to fuck her up the arse!
10. Don’t be in a rush to change position – let HER tell you when she wants to change. Have a bit of patience and she’ll soon want to get more comfortable. Then you can get on the bed, try a different position, and hopefully achieve the result you BOTH want.
Now, without bigging myself up, I have been blessed with a very ‘above average’ girth cock. It’s a genuine six inches, so a lot of women baulk at the thought of even trying anal with me – let alone actually doing it, but the above method has proved successful in the majority of cases and I can say, proudly, that I have taken many women from being anal virgins to fully-addicted anal fanatics in less than 20 mins, just by taking my time and keeping to the steps above.
Try it – you’ll be amazed!
Now – one thing I want to dispel here and now. The guy generally gets LESS out of anal than the woman. Guys, this is a FACT. Nature did NOT give you a pad of hormone-releasing tissue in your cock! But it DID give women such a spot between their vagina and anus. It is this which gives the woman a HUGE (and I do mean H-U-G-E orgasm from anal!!) and, if you take your time, try different positions and find the right angle for your cock to enter her arse, then she’ll love you forever!
You need to be aiming to press on this pad with the head of your cock as you are thrusting into her arse – this is why you need to try different positions until you find the right one which works for both of you.
One partner I did this with a couple of years ago had NEVER experienced a natural orgasm through vaginal sex, but after half an hours experimenting with a few different positions, she came so hard, fast and large that she ended up in tears of happiness. Needless to say she want a LOT more anal after that... ;-)
Although we all look roughly the same, it’s amazing how differently put together we all are. Some women will achieve anal orgasm through doggie style, some through missionary, some spoons etc etc – the two of you have to find what works for you. Don’t get frustrated that your woman can’t orgasm the way you want her to. You’ve got to ask yourself what you’re doing this for? YOUR gratification, or the pleasure of both of you? I know what I prefer...
Anal Sex Health Considerations:-
You must pay attention to this and not think that you can take the risks you see in porn films. A lot of nasty bacteria live in our arses! They are there for a reason and they are not meant to be present anywhere else in our bodies – for the woman, they should especially NOT find their way into her vagina.
Arse to Mouth (ATM) can also be very dangerous. Whilst a lot of guys get really turned on by the thought of fucking a girl up her arse, then getting her to suck their cock clean immediately after, you need to ask yourself something: If this is your girlfriend/wife/partner, how are you going to feel when she has to go to the doctors to get treatment for the infections that can result and she has to tell the Doctor how she got them????
So, to stay safe for both of you, you need to pay attention to hygiene immediately post-anal. If you do want to go straight into vaginal or oral sex, at least have a some anti-bacterial wipes handy and clean your cock up! DON’T use a wet flannel or anything like that as it may not be as ‘clean’ as you think!!
Remember – what you see in porn movies is make-believe. They are professional actors who are paid to take the risks, and who are checked regularly. By all means enjoy anal, but stay safe and healthy.
Any specific questions? Drop me a message and I’ll do my best to offer an answer.
The Phoenixman.
9 years ago
