Questioning What I've Known

I've always considered myself straight, but over the past year or so, I've been thinking more and more that I might be bisexual. I've never been with a guy before but I've been thinking about what it would be like more and more. I had an opportunity a few months ago to hook up with a guy, but I couldn't bring myself to do it. I think I could still hook up with the guy, but honestly, I'm nervous.

So I guess my question is: should I give it a try? How do other people get over their fears or nervousness?

Published by metalfan777

10 years ago

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metalfan777 Publisher 12 days ago

to DanielTBoone : Thank ya for the comment. I'm still working on my insecurities but hopefully I'm able to take the plunge and have some fun!

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DanielTBoone 29 days ago

I still have hangups about it, and all I like to do is suck cock. But I got good at it, and now I'm pretty popular in my hometown LOL. There's not a lot to worry about, and what you do in privacy with a consenting adult or two is nobody's business but your own!!

Enjoysbothways430 5 months ago

Just take your time and find the one and go for it ,,, but after that first one you will always want to suck cock

metalfan777 Publisher 1 year ago

to LloydOfMurica : I had been seeing a guy for a couple months. As far as sex stuff goes, the furthest we went was making out/jerking off.
I still have hangups with sex.

I did end things though- I needed to work through some of those issues and other underlying issues. Luckily, I have made good progress there. And in fact, I am still friends with the guy I had been seeing. We've talked through some of the issues but are not going to date at this time.

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LloydOfMurica 1 year ago

Did it ever work out for you with the other guy? I'm curious myself how I'd react if the opportunity presented itself. Fantasy is one thing, but actually going through with it is another.

indieskin2 1 year ago

try mutual massage and or have some 420 or a drink.

metalfan777 Publisher 2 years ago

to Monk3yMing0 : For sure, I appreciate the offer. It is good to know I can reach out if I just need to talk through things with someone.

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Monk3yMing0 2 years ago

to metalfan777 : Good. Best gift you can ever give yourself is comfort in your own skin and with who you are. If you ever need an understanding ear, feel free to hmu. No ulterior motives; just been through a lot of mental issues of my own and know how to listen.

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metalfan777 Publisher 2 years ago

to Monk3yMing0 : Unfortunately, I still haven't taken the plunge. I have been on dates with men but still cannot get over my hang-up on sex. I wish it wasn't the case- I had been seeing a guy this year who was great but I just realized I needed to work on some mental aspects of my life and it was not fair to ask him to sit on the sidelines while I get the help I need.
That said, I am getting help so hopefully I start making progress in my life and can start taking advantage of these sorts of experiences!

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Monk3yMing0 2 years ago

I know it's been a few years, but i hope you went for it. Life is short and the world os a dumpster fire and as you age, the only things you really regret are the chances you didn't take.

BigA69N 2 years ago

yes go for it. I did and I love cock both sucking it and taking it up my ass

Desertdaddy1 4 years ago

Once you have a guy suck your cock you will be hooked....I did now my sex life is really active with naughty mature sissy Gurls over 40.....best sex ever...no more pussy for me....now I fuck Sissy’s who beg for more

haveabig14ya 10 years ago

Relax and get on bi/gay online website so you can find some local guys and read over profiles. You will find some guys who can help you out and get you eased into playing with a and sucking dick. Once you get to play with a few guys then you will be much more relaxed with the gals. You will find you get way more pussy when your not needing to get laid.

Flyhi69 10 years ago

I've passed on lots of opportunities, well said to be, but who knows if the other person would have chickened out had I went forward.

BUT get more curious every day and dream up more hot fantasies to explore, and would rather do so with someone in the same situation, loving the boobs, ass, pussy and smile on a lady, but very curious to explore another cock, body, ass. Especially since wife sucking me is about as rare as hen's teeth anymore. Hope we can meet soon and explore this stuff together.

Flyhi69 10 years ago

Very Bi curious to explore that side, esp. with inexperienced bi curious guy. Be fun to explore together and since we're in CO., want to meet sometime?

Great post, I'm in the very same boat as you. I really want to but I get too nervous. Then I regret it a bit and get horny all over again. I read the comments below, I guess it would be like anything else being done the first time. I hope I can have my first time with someone enjoyable and understanding. Xhamster definitely doesn't help controlling my curiosity, can't wait though. Let's us know it goes. Good luck

windsurfer2 10 years ago

just take your time and try it, it may take a few times until you are comfortable. I started in college and was nervous too. I enjoy being Bi.

lildick4u 10 years ago

do it!

go ahead and do it. myself, as I get older the desire got stronger. married but it gets routine. been with a few guys and its exciting! still looking for 1 or 2 good friends. Don't do anything your not comfortable with!!!!!

you will love it. i was like you but since ive been with men im so happy.im still married but meet men all the time for hot hookups.once you start .hard to stop.nothing better than another man touching you

2bornot2b 10 years ago

someone you trust, and let the lust consume you...

Lenrod 10 years ago

It ok to be nervous, What helped me was to think that if someone wanted to have sex with me it was ok if that person was another guy, and let go of all the stereo types and labels and use my on head to figure out what I was ok with. Good Luck and do let us know how it works out for you.

jim69jim 10 years ago

to pervert76 : This and what gtz039 says are the closest I would say. Take your time, when it feels right go for it and enjoy, just be careful, you'll know what to do. Good Luck!

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MMSdawg 10 years ago

I felt the same way and found a nice guy that was experienced and he has shown me the way! Still love pussy but he has an awesome cock!

metalfan777 Publisher 10 years ago

Thanks you guys for the comments! Looks like I have some stuff to think about it. It sounds like I should try it and have no regrets.

pervert76 10 years ago

I agree with the previous statements. It took me a long time to get over the fear of playing with a guy. There is still a stigma of it and if the guys i work with knew they would freak!!! However, you do what you wanna do. Sucking a dick doesn't change who you are. Fucking a guy or being fucked doesn't change who you are. Ive been lucky enough to understand this in recent years and wish I would have figured it out years ago!!! Just have fun and enjoy being "sexual"!!

smallfurrycreature 10 years ago

I agree with the previous comment. In simple terms, you are sexual. That's it How you manage from here is your adventure.

fl44bothways 10 years ago

I think what you're experiencing is the relaxing of stereotypes, old-fashioned labels and sexual boundaries that comes with age and experience and wisdom. Although I had had some experimental experiences as an adolescent, it was almost 20 years later that I had the urge and desire to be with a guy again. What do you have to lose by trying? I eventually moved on to playing with couples and it's truly the best of both worlds. Perhaps you might feel comfortable in that scenario. In that hyper sexual state everything feels good. Good Luck!