CAN WE EVER BE TRULY HONEST.
HOW HONEST HAVE WE BEEN?? ONCE INTO A RELATIONSHIP CAN WE BE TRULY HONEST, OR IF WE ARE HONEST AND TELL THE WHOLE TRUTH DO WE RISK LOOSING EVERYTHING WE HOLD DEAR?????? IS PERSONAL FREEDOM VERY MUCH PART OF WHAT WE ARE LOOKING FOR???, just to be free to say whats in our head.
The other day a lady asked what I was looking for from a woman, well the easy quick answer would be sex. But you can hardley give a one word answer like "sex" when its only your second or third message. So I said I was looking for someone I could be comfortable with, so that we could be open and honest with each other unlike most couples, she asked what I ment by most couple not been honest and a quite long conversation started. I then looked at how most of us keep such alot bottled up inside and over time honesty goes out of the window, and we loose our personal freedom.
So have a think about just how honest we are with our partners,,, in a new relationship, would both parties be upfront and honest, if the bloke had cross-dressed and had found it a turn on,,,would he risk been honest??? ( I really fancied my wife and by the time I had fallen in love with her I dare not tell her I had cross-dressed and found it a huge turn-on) Lets say the lady got turned on by ladies in porno films and was Bi curious, would she tell the whole truth to her bloke ??? perhaps not it could up-set the apple cart and ruin the love that had was starting to developed.
So I think you can say that we would all keep some very private things to ourselves.
Then if you think about relationships further down the road, when boredom has set in, and there are bills to pay, can we be truely honest with each other,,once other pressures have built up. Can a woman stand up and say "the k**s, all the houes work are driving me mad, getting them up in a morring the school run shoping, feeding, washing, sorting out the squabbles, having tea on the table etc etc etc you dont help half enough, or understand what it takes out of me,,etc etc CAN SHE EVER BE TRULY HONEST AND SAY WHATS ON HER MIND ???? and can a bloke stand up and say " come on love show some intrest dont just lay there like a sack of spuuds.
Or how many times have you just wanted to spend Christamas at home by your two selves, but could you ever be honest and get what you wanted.
No niether of them can be truely honest, they might try bringing up the subjects of consern and nibble away at the corners. But to realy be honest ??? when they need each other to help pay the bills and keep the roof over their heads,,I dont think so. THERE IS FAR TOO MUCH AT STAKE ,TO BE TRULY HONEST. To say anything, could bring their whole world tumbling down around them. So they plod on trying to make the best of things. and its one compromise after another, which is fine in the beginning, (you make compromises to please your partner) But then as time goes by you end up making more and more compromises then they all join up, you find yourself saying things in your head that you could never say out allowed, and that starts to takes its toll. We are been dishonest to ourselves first and foremost and then to our partners. But its not DONE INTENTIONALLY.
If you start to analyse things you will see how we end up trying to put everybody eles first,, the k**s, come first,,,try to put the wife first and keep her happy,, (yes love I would love to go over to your parents this weekend). Work comes first, I better cut the grass, or what will the neighbers think,,, so they come first,, we all have to conform to what society and those around us want, and in effect we loose all our personl freedom. OVER it becomes impossible to stand up and be HONEST !!! because it could lead to loosing everything we hold dear to us.
So I think we could all be looking to find or regain that long lost personal freedom. It could well be that ones personal freedom and the chance to be just totaly honest and open is just as important as the sexual drive most of us have.
And remember this,,,,If you have a thought in your head, and it stays there, week after week, or year after year, then its a totaly worthless thought. That thought Which is a part of the REAL YOU, that thought in your head is your true honesty, but it will never achive anything, it will never have any effect,, it will never change anything while ever its just in your head, its so useless it may as well be in outer space. Only if you SPEAK it out allowed to someone eles, will it ever enter this world,, only when that thought is spoken allowed will it have any real affect, only when its spoken allowed will anything change.
So perhaps we should all ask???? can we ever be truely honest ???? in the society we live in today??? Its very wrong to be dishonest to others, but its sacrilege to be dishonest to yourself. So after bottling things up for years do we loose all personal freedom???? Do we find that we have been living one big lie ???
Its very easy to ASK FOR HONESTY,,,from others,,, but perhaps we should look at things from a different perspective, and see the truth behind the word. HONEST.
The other day a lady asked what I was looking for from a woman, well the easy quick answer would be sex. But you can hardley give a one word answer like "sex" when its only your second or third message. So I said I was looking for someone I could be comfortable with, so that we could be open and honest with each other unlike most couples, she asked what I ment by most couple not been honest and a quite long conversation started. I then looked at how most of us keep such alot bottled up inside and over time honesty goes out of the window, and we loose our personal freedom.
So have a think about just how honest we are with our partners,,, in a new relationship, would both parties be upfront and honest, if the bloke had cross-dressed and had found it a turn on,,,would he risk been honest??? ( I really fancied my wife and by the time I had fallen in love with her I dare not tell her I had cross-dressed and found it a huge turn-on) Lets say the lady got turned on by ladies in porno films and was Bi curious, would she tell the whole truth to her bloke ??? perhaps not it could up-set the apple cart and ruin the love that had was starting to developed.
So I think you can say that we would all keep some very private things to ourselves.
Then if you think about relationships further down the road, when boredom has set in, and there are bills to pay, can we be truely honest with each other,,once other pressures have built up. Can a woman stand up and say "the k**s, all the houes work are driving me mad, getting them up in a morring the school run shoping, feeding, washing, sorting out the squabbles, having tea on the table etc etc etc you dont help half enough, or understand what it takes out of me,,etc etc CAN SHE EVER BE TRULY HONEST AND SAY WHATS ON HER MIND ???? and can a bloke stand up and say " come on love show some intrest dont just lay there like a sack of spuuds.
Or how many times have you just wanted to spend Christamas at home by your two selves, but could you ever be honest and get what you wanted.
No niether of them can be truely honest, they might try bringing up the subjects of consern and nibble away at the corners. But to realy be honest ??? when they need each other to help pay the bills and keep the roof over their heads,,I dont think so. THERE IS FAR TOO MUCH AT STAKE ,TO BE TRULY HONEST. To say anything, could bring their whole world tumbling down around them. So they plod on trying to make the best of things. and its one compromise after another, which is fine in the beginning, (you make compromises to please your partner) But then as time goes by you end up making more and more compromises then they all join up, you find yourself saying things in your head that you could never say out allowed, and that starts to takes its toll. We are been dishonest to ourselves first and foremost and then to our partners. But its not DONE INTENTIONALLY.
If you start to analyse things you will see how we end up trying to put everybody eles first,, the k**s, come first,,,try to put the wife first and keep her happy,, (yes love I would love to go over to your parents this weekend). Work comes first, I better cut the grass, or what will the neighbers think,,, so they come first,, we all have to conform to what society and those around us want, and in effect we loose all our personl freedom. OVER it becomes impossible to stand up and be HONEST !!! because it could lead to loosing everything we hold dear to us.
So I think we could all be looking to find or regain that long lost personal freedom. It could well be that ones personal freedom and the chance to be just totaly honest and open is just as important as the sexual drive most of us have.
And remember this,,,,If you have a thought in your head, and it stays there, week after week, or year after year, then its a totaly worthless thought. That thought Which is a part of the REAL YOU, that thought in your head is your true honesty, but it will never achive anything, it will never have any effect,, it will never change anything while ever its just in your head, its so useless it may as well be in outer space. Only if you SPEAK it out allowed to someone eles, will it ever enter this world,, only when that thought is spoken allowed will it have any real affect, only when its spoken allowed will anything change.
So perhaps we should all ask???? can we ever be truely honest ???? in the society we live in today??? Its very wrong to be dishonest to others, but its sacrilege to be dishonest to yourself. So after bottling things up for years do we loose all personal freedom???? Do we find that we have been living one big lie ???
Its very easy to ASK FOR HONESTY,,,from others,,, but perhaps we should look at things from a different perspective, and see the truth behind the word. HONEST.
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