2) More biological facts - liberated wives
I would guess you have had thoughts and craving about other men, and most likely felt really bad and guilty about them. Perhaps you worried what is wrong about you and if it means don’t you love your man anymore. Or perhaps you considered them random thoughts that you just ignored, denied or pushed away. As contradicting they might seem, those feelings are very common and have natural explanation, and you shouldn’t feel guilty about them.
Women are biologically designed to want to partner with two very different types of men. It's built into our nature and if we deny our nature we are going to end up very, very unhappy in the long term. Over the years scientists, medical professionals and anthropologists have documented how and why it's not natural for a woman to be faithful to one man.
You see, women are programmed by nature to want a solid, reliable long-term partner. Nature did that to ensure there would be someone to protect us from wild a****ls and make sure our caves were stocked with food, so we would have a safe place to raise our c***dren. These are the men we are emotionally attracted to.
Unfortunately for these types of men, nature doesn't want us to mate with the guys who stick around and protect us. Nature doesn't care if he's smart, funny or has more mammoth hides than any of the other cave dwellers.
Nature wants us to mate with strong, virile men who can beat the shit out of the other men, have strong immune systems and produce the highest quality DNA sperm. These types of testosterone driven men rarely, if ever, make good long-term partners; but they are the ones that get us hot and bothered.
Which means our instincts make us want to marry the types of guys we really don't want to have sex with, but want to have sex with the types of guys who would make awful marriage material.
This is borne out by recent scientific research into feminine arousal. It seems that during the non-fertile parts of our cycle, we are attracted to sensitive caring men with soft features. But, when we’re ovulating, we suddenly find these types of men to be a turn-off and instead get seriously wet for stud boy cavemen. In fact, the women were shown to be very unlikely to orgasm if they had sex with their primary partner during ovulation, but very likely to experience ecstasy if they cheated during this part of their cycle. And what scientists have found out and proven, everyone has always known: Cheating sex feels very, very good.
Well, these scientists theorize that this came about so we'd have just enough sex with our long-term partners to make them think they were the fathers of our c***dren – and therefore help us care for them – while also making it less likely we'd mate with these men when we were fertile, but to go for the other kind of sex when it matters.
So, do not to feel bad about such urges, they are inevitable and natural. It doesn't means you don't love your man – you’re just normal healthy woman who needs to get serviced by a stud a couple times a month.
For such a setting, female sexual desires have to be more differentiated than those of men. Nature regulates this by not allowing them full sexual satisfaction with the lesser male who may be their permanent partner. They may bond ok with a lesser male, and develop the emotions summarized as "love", but there is an element that becomes obvious to them only over time. This element is her desire for sexual satisfaction with a male who is better equipped to bring her to the level of sexual pleasure that results in a vaginal orgasm. Thus, female sexual, more than male sexual desire, is dualistic: have a love relationship with a permanent partner, and seek sexual satisfaction with an alpha male. For this reason we have to make sense of the following: almost all men have no problem, and great pleasure, in achieving orgasm and ejaculation through sexual intercourse with a female. But females only achieve sexual satisfaction through vaginal intercourse with men of an alpha built (which means: men who have a particular large penis). The above explanation tries to make sense of this phenomenon by assuming that the female incapacity for vaginal orgasms with men with penises of an average size has been developed in the course of evolution in order to make sure that the females of the human species will seek out sexual relationships with alpha males (large penises) in spite of being bonded to lesser males (average penises).
Take this poll or check out the results; what other women think:
“Women cheat. Often. One of the most dramatic advantages, genetically, of being female is that there is never any doubt of parentage. In other words, a mother knows with 100% certainty that her c***d is her own. (This, of course, doesn’t take into account modern medical procedures, but you get the point.) Since evolution is not concerned with ethics, only successful reproduction, it stands to reason that females would have learned to take advantage of this fact. They clearly have. Though the numbers vary slightly depending on the particular culture, one thing has been proven rather conclusively. In cultures that are primarily or strictly monogamous, cuckoldry is common. In the landmark study, conducted in Liverpool in the 1980s, it was discovered that less than 70% of c***dren were actually related to the man who believed himself to be the father.´
If it is true that human nature is the cause of this phenomenon, we ought to see biological evidence. It so happens that the evidence is striking. Recent investigations of the female orgasm have given us a rather shocking dose of reality. It has long been known that there are some female orgasms that cause more sperm to be retained after sex. These are called high-retention orgasms. Obviously, high retention orgasms have a higher probability of inducing pregnancy. What was shocking to researchers was when they examined orgasms alongside fidelity. Among unfaithful wives, only 40 percent of their orgasms with their husbands were high-retention orgasms. Even more shocking, though, was the fact that over 70 percent of the orgasms with their adulterous lovers were high-retention.
The combination of these numbers is shocking. Though women tended to have sex with their husbands way more than their lovers, they were still more likely to conceive with their lover than with their husband. It appears that women have a biological drive to keep their husband while bearing the c***d of another man.“
Well no one really is trying to get a c***d on those trips... but it just feels better; our instincts at work.
As conclusion, sperm competition situation turns on all men, but on certain men it is easier capitalize on. Typically men above his 30’s, who are secure and confident in life have no significant issues accepting their nature and submitting to a woman.
"Boys and insecure, jealous man has always been a HUGE turn off for me… When a handsome, powerful, successful man came along that I quickly fell in love with and introduced me to the cuckold lifestyle…OMG! No more macho drama! Just intense, out of this world hours of lovemaking, that unfortunately most of you who are not secure with your own cocks will ever understand. Sorry : )"
You can easily test your man. One night tell him you want him to imagine he’s doing Britney Spears or Cindy Crawford while he makes love to you. The next night tell him that you are going to be thinking of your fantasy man while you make love. As things build up see how he reacts when you moan the other guy’s name in bed. If he suddenly erupts you’ll know he has some latent cuckold tendencies. However keep that as a single incident until much later.
Women are biologically designed to want to partner with two very different types of men. It's built into our nature and if we deny our nature we are going to end up very, very unhappy in the long term. Over the years scientists, medical professionals and anthropologists have documented how and why it's not natural for a woman to be faithful to one man.
You see, women are programmed by nature to want a solid, reliable long-term partner. Nature did that to ensure there would be someone to protect us from wild a****ls and make sure our caves were stocked with food, so we would have a safe place to raise our c***dren. These are the men we are emotionally attracted to.
Unfortunately for these types of men, nature doesn't want us to mate with the guys who stick around and protect us. Nature doesn't care if he's smart, funny or has more mammoth hides than any of the other cave dwellers.
Nature wants us to mate with strong, virile men who can beat the shit out of the other men, have strong immune systems and produce the highest quality DNA sperm. These types of testosterone driven men rarely, if ever, make good long-term partners; but they are the ones that get us hot and bothered.
Which means our instincts make us want to marry the types of guys we really don't want to have sex with, but want to have sex with the types of guys who would make awful marriage material.
This is borne out by recent scientific research into feminine arousal. It seems that during the non-fertile parts of our cycle, we are attracted to sensitive caring men with soft features. But, when we’re ovulating, we suddenly find these types of men to be a turn-off and instead get seriously wet for stud boy cavemen. In fact, the women were shown to be very unlikely to orgasm if they had sex with their primary partner during ovulation, but very likely to experience ecstasy if they cheated during this part of their cycle. And what scientists have found out and proven, everyone has always known: Cheating sex feels very, very good.
Well, these scientists theorize that this came about so we'd have just enough sex with our long-term partners to make them think they were the fathers of our c***dren – and therefore help us care for them – while also making it less likely we'd mate with these men when we were fertile, but to go for the other kind of sex when it matters.
So, do not to feel bad about such urges, they are inevitable and natural. It doesn't means you don't love your man – you’re just normal healthy woman who needs to get serviced by a stud a couple times a month.
For such a setting, female sexual desires have to be more differentiated than those of men. Nature regulates this by not allowing them full sexual satisfaction with the lesser male who may be their permanent partner. They may bond ok with a lesser male, and develop the emotions summarized as "love", but there is an element that becomes obvious to them only over time. This element is her desire for sexual satisfaction with a male who is better equipped to bring her to the level of sexual pleasure that results in a vaginal orgasm. Thus, female sexual, more than male sexual desire, is dualistic: have a love relationship with a permanent partner, and seek sexual satisfaction with an alpha male. For this reason we have to make sense of the following: almost all men have no problem, and great pleasure, in achieving orgasm and ejaculation through sexual intercourse with a female. But females only achieve sexual satisfaction through vaginal intercourse with men of an alpha built (which means: men who have a particular large penis). The above explanation tries to make sense of this phenomenon by assuming that the female incapacity for vaginal orgasms with men with penises of an average size has been developed in the course of evolution in order to make sure that the females of the human species will seek out sexual relationships with alpha males (large penises) in spite of being bonded to lesser males (average penises).
Take this poll or check out the results; what other women think:
“Women cheat. Often. One of the most dramatic advantages, genetically, of being female is that there is never any doubt of parentage. In other words, a mother knows with 100% certainty that her c***d is her own. (This, of course, doesn’t take into account modern medical procedures, but you get the point.) Since evolution is not concerned with ethics, only successful reproduction, it stands to reason that females would have learned to take advantage of this fact. They clearly have. Though the numbers vary slightly depending on the particular culture, one thing has been proven rather conclusively. In cultures that are primarily or strictly monogamous, cuckoldry is common. In the landmark study, conducted in Liverpool in the 1980s, it was discovered that less than 70% of c***dren were actually related to the man who believed himself to be the father.´
If it is true that human nature is the cause of this phenomenon, we ought to see biological evidence. It so happens that the evidence is striking. Recent investigations of the female orgasm have given us a rather shocking dose of reality. It has long been known that there are some female orgasms that cause more sperm to be retained after sex. These are called high-retention orgasms. Obviously, high retention orgasms have a higher probability of inducing pregnancy. What was shocking to researchers was when they examined orgasms alongside fidelity. Among unfaithful wives, only 40 percent of their orgasms with their husbands were high-retention orgasms. Even more shocking, though, was the fact that over 70 percent of the orgasms with their adulterous lovers were high-retention.
The combination of these numbers is shocking. Though women tended to have sex with their husbands way more than their lovers, they were still more likely to conceive with their lover than with their husband. It appears that women have a biological drive to keep their husband while bearing the c***d of another man.“
Well no one really is trying to get a c***d on those trips... but it just feels better; our instincts at work.
As conclusion, sperm competition situation turns on all men, but on certain men it is easier capitalize on. Typically men above his 30’s, who are secure and confident in life have no significant issues accepting their nature and submitting to a woman.
"Boys and insecure, jealous man has always been a HUGE turn off for me… When a handsome, powerful, successful man came along that I quickly fell in love with and introduced me to the cuckold lifestyle…OMG! No more macho drama! Just intense, out of this world hours of lovemaking, that unfortunately most of you who are not secure with your own cocks will ever understand. Sorry : )"
You can easily test your man. One night tell him you want him to imagine he’s doing Britney Spears or Cindy Crawford while he makes love to you. The next night tell him that you are going to be thinking of your fantasy man while you make love. As things build up see how he reacts when you moan the other guy’s name in bed. If he suddenly erupts you’ll know he has some latent cuckold tendencies. However keep that as a single incident until much later.
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