Naturism and sex - advice for would-be naturists
You will see from our profile that we are a naturist couple, and as naturism has given us a lot of pleasure over the years, we are always keen to promote it, and I am happy to answer queries from would-be naturists.
When the worlds of naturism and sex collide, there are various myths and misunderstandings that prevail, and the following is intended to help to debunk them.
It looks at why naturism and sex are closely connected, then why they should be separated, and finally - look out for the twist in the tale - how they turn out to be completely interconnected, after all, in the most beautiful of ways.
I think we can all agree - and not just those of us who visit porn sites like this one - on what is the most fun you can have with your clothes OFF.
But some of us have also discovered that simply being naked is, in itself, another of life’s delights.
There is a word for this: naturism (although you will also find people who still call it by its more old-fashioned name, nudism).
No two naturists are the same. They range from people who just like to relax on a nude beach for a couple of hours in the middle of their otherwise standard summer holiday (fair enough), to those who would gladly be naked all day, every day, if they could.
The latter is me, and it is not going too far to say the utter joy I get from being naked outdoors and in the company of like-minded people is such a beautiful sensual experience that it brings an intense pleasure approaching the one that comes with sex.
It brings a totally unique feeling of freedom, relaxation, liberation and excitement that only sexual anticipation, foreplay and the release of orgasm can beat.
You get a hint of this when you take off your shoes after a long day out of the house. Take off your socks, too, and you start to feel still more relaxed - and if you don't stop taking off clothes, you feel even more of the stress melting away. Female naturists often quote the relief of taking off their bras when they get home - and think: why stop there?
As with sex, being naked doesn't just give you a physical buzz, but a mental one, too. And because the combination of those two is so powerful and so enjoyable, who is to say it isn’t sometimes a spiritual experience, as well?
It’s at this point that I should say that if you are dubious about my claim that naturism can be in the same league as a sexual experience, then that may be because of one of two things. It might just be that you just haven’t had the chance to (or decided not to) try it yet.
Or, if you have tried it, you might just be one of those people - and there are many - who just don’t get the same buzz from social and public nudity that true naturists do. Fair enough. We are all different.
But it’s important to say that if you are not a naturist because you reckon you won’t like it, you can’t possibly know for sure until you try it. The only way to truly experience it is to do it. Only then can you really decide if it’s for you or not.
You have nothing to lose and much to gain, so do try it, because the regret that naturists commonly express is that they didn’t do it sooner.
So here we have these two great pleasures, and as there are such clear similarities between them, then surely naturism and sex must be linked. Right?
Well, talk to many naturists or consult bona fide naturist organisations, resorts or other businesses and they will probably answer with an emphatic NO.
You will rarely hear the S-word even mentioned by people who practise naturism or make their living from it - and there is a reason for it.
Wearing clothes is a default condition that we have been conditioned to consider normal, decent and even wholesome, and we only spend a minority of our time nude. That’s why there is a general assumption that if two or more adults get together and remove their clothes, it must be for sexual reasons. After all, apart from the necessity of getting naked in the shower or the bath, most people only undress for one thing, right?
This is a terrible dilemma for naturists because they want to get across just how pure and lovely and sensual it feels, just to be naked outdoors or around other naked people - but they don’t want to attract people for the wrong reason, especially as it is something that families can enjoy together.
So the answer is to not just to ban the S-word completely, but try to pretend that - at least while you are in a naturist venue - there isn’t even any such thing as sex. Or, if there is, naturists don’t do it.
And actually, that’s not necessarily a bad approach.
As sensual as naturism is and as naked as you are when you are doing it, it doesn’t need a sexual element to give you a great experience, and the two can be kept quite separate.
Think of all the other non-sexual things you love that don’t need a sexual element to make them worthwhile. Why should naturism be different?
This brings us to the dilemma that most men think they will face when they decide they might want to give naturism a try, and the answer to their inevitable question is: no, you almost certainly WILL NOT get an erection.
For a start, although you may get a slight thrill from the sight of all those nude bodies, and getting naked might kickstart some anticipation of sex in your brain, unless you are at a special kind of naturist venue (that is, a swinging one), your cock will soon decide the situation isn’t going to lead to sex anytime soon, so it will almost certainly behave.
Believe it or not, despite extensive experience, I haven’t yet seen an erection in a truly naturist venue and/or situation.
The message from this should be clear enough: don’t go to a genuine (non-swinging) naturist club if you think it is a passport to an orgy and other sexual delights. If that’s your motive, you are going to be very disappointed, and worse: even though you won’t get an erection (see above) you will stick out from the crowd - as a predator. And nobody likes a predator. Or an exhibitionist (at least, not in this context).
The same applies if you are a wannabe naturist relishing the thought of all that naked flesh and thinking it is a voyeur’s paradise. Think about it: the vast majority of naturists are just normal people with normal bodies, by which I mean imperfect ones that are often a long way from the nubile young lesbian playthings or perfect hunks in your naturist dreams. So as much as you might imagine it to be one, it really isn’t that sexy an atmosphere.
That’s not to say there isn’t a (non-sexual) natural beauty in nudity that is well worth experiencing, but to put it in a nutshell: you gotta be there for the naturism, not the sex.
If you are only interested in the sex, that’s fair enough. We are not against that, but you need to pick a different kind of club or a spa or a resort, where the voyeuristic, exhibitionist and swinging aspect is the main thrust (pardon the pun). Choosing the right one is not rocket science; Google will help.
But what about that twist in the tale?
I know I have gone out of my way to explain why naturism and sex are (and probably should be) kept separate, but in the end there is a powerful connection.
It’s all to do with that indescribable feeling of liberation that naturism generates in your mind, along with the excitement, the relaxation, the de-stressing, the sensual feeling of the sun, wind or even rain on your skin, feeling at one with nature, the self-pride, the dare factor and more besides, even the spiritual quality of it.
It doesn’t produce a hard-on whoosh of aching lust with a need to unload your cum as fast as possible; we have already established that you won’t even get an erection. But when you and your partner get back to the privacy of your tent or chalet or room, if you are like us you will find that all that liberation puts you in the perfect mood for sex.
This is an attraction that genuine naturist resorts daren’t mention on their websites - they are so determined not to attract the wrong kind of people - but it is a factor.
Having lost most or perhaps all of your inhibitions when you took off your clothes in public, in private you could be on course for not only quality sex but perhaps also an appetite and willingness for a kinkier, unashamed kind of sex, compared with the routine at home (and, guys: that may be the best reason of all for talking her into giving naturism a try).
So, to summarise: sex is wonderful, naturism is wonderful, and sex after (but probably not during) naturism is wonderful, too, but if you want to be accepted as a bona fide naturist, make sure you don’t mention the S-word.
PS If you are a single would-be (male) naturist who is genuinely interested in the non-sexual joy of it, or you are in a relationship but your partner doesn’t share your appetite for being naked in public with other people, you may find it difficult to get into social naturism. This is partly because naturist clubs and other venues are generally sexist in their attitude towards single men, assuming them to be perverts, even though they are probably just normal, innocent, red-blooded, sensual males, which is not a crime - and that is undoubtedly really unfair on those guys. On the other hand, many of them do not help themselves by approaching it in the wrong way and making other errors. I will probably make this the subject of a future post, but, in the meantime, if this situation applies to you and you are keen to be a genuine naturist, I will gladly give advice, if you message me.
When the worlds of naturism and sex collide, there are various myths and misunderstandings that prevail, and the following is intended to help to debunk them.
It looks at why naturism and sex are closely connected, then why they should be separated, and finally - look out for the twist in the tale - how they turn out to be completely interconnected, after all, in the most beautiful of ways.
I think we can all agree - and not just those of us who visit porn sites like this one - on what is the most fun you can have with your clothes OFF.
But some of us have also discovered that simply being naked is, in itself, another of life’s delights.
There is a word for this: naturism (although you will also find people who still call it by its more old-fashioned name, nudism).
No two naturists are the same. They range from people who just like to relax on a nude beach for a couple of hours in the middle of their otherwise standard summer holiday (fair enough), to those who would gladly be naked all day, every day, if they could.
The latter is me, and it is not going too far to say the utter joy I get from being naked outdoors and in the company of like-minded people is such a beautiful sensual experience that it brings an intense pleasure approaching the one that comes with sex.
It brings a totally unique feeling of freedom, relaxation, liberation and excitement that only sexual anticipation, foreplay and the release of orgasm can beat.
You get a hint of this when you take off your shoes after a long day out of the house. Take off your socks, too, and you start to feel still more relaxed - and if you don't stop taking off clothes, you feel even more of the stress melting away. Female naturists often quote the relief of taking off their bras when they get home - and think: why stop there?
As with sex, being naked doesn't just give you a physical buzz, but a mental one, too. And because the combination of those two is so powerful and so enjoyable, who is to say it isn’t sometimes a spiritual experience, as well?
It’s at this point that I should say that if you are dubious about my claim that naturism can be in the same league as a sexual experience, then that may be because of one of two things. It might just be that you just haven’t had the chance to (or decided not to) try it yet.
Or, if you have tried it, you might just be one of those people - and there are many - who just don’t get the same buzz from social and public nudity that true naturists do. Fair enough. We are all different.
But it’s important to say that if you are not a naturist because you reckon you won’t like it, you can’t possibly know for sure until you try it. The only way to truly experience it is to do it. Only then can you really decide if it’s for you or not.
You have nothing to lose and much to gain, so do try it, because the regret that naturists commonly express is that they didn’t do it sooner.
So here we have these two great pleasures, and as there are such clear similarities between them, then surely naturism and sex must be linked. Right?
Well, talk to many naturists or consult bona fide naturist organisations, resorts or other businesses and they will probably answer with an emphatic NO.
You will rarely hear the S-word even mentioned by people who practise naturism or make their living from it - and there is a reason for it.
Wearing clothes is a default condition that we have been conditioned to consider normal, decent and even wholesome, and we only spend a minority of our time nude. That’s why there is a general assumption that if two or more adults get together and remove their clothes, it must be for sexual reasons. After all, apart from the necessity of getting naked in the shower or the bath, most people only undress for one thing, right?
This is a terrible dilemma for naturists because they want to get across just how pure and lovely and sensual it feels, just to be naked outdoors or around other naked people - but they don’t want to attract people for the wrong reason, especially as it is something that families can enjoy together.
So the answer is to not just to ban the S-word completely, but try to pretend that - at least while you are in a naturist venue - there isn’t even any such thing as sex. Or, if there is, naturists don’t do it.
And actually, that’s not necessarily a bad approach.
As sensual as naturism is and as naked as you are when you are doing it, it doesn’t need a sexual element to give you a great experience, and the two can be kept quite separate.
Think of all the other non-sexual things you love that don’t need a sexual element to make them worthwhile. Why should naturism be different?
This brings us to the dilemma that most men think they will face when they decide they might want to give naturism a try, and the answer to their inevitable question is: no, you almost certainly WILL NOT get an erection.
For a start, although you may get a slight thrill from the sight of all those nude bodies, and getting naked might kickstart some anticipation of sex in your brain, unless you are at a special kind of naturist venue (that is, a swinging one), your cock will soon decide the situation isn’t going to lead to sex anytime soon, so it will almost certainly behave.
Believe it or not, despite extensive experience, I haven’t yet seen an erection in a truly naturist venue and/or situation.
The message from this should be clear enough: don’t go to a genuine (non-swinging) naturist club if you think it is a passport to an orgy and other sexual delights. If that’s your motive, you are going to be very disappointed, and worse: even though you won’t get an erection (see above) you will stick out from the crowd - as a predator. And nobody likes a predator. Or an exhibitionist (at least, not in this context).
The same applies if you are a wannabe naturist relishing the thought of all that naked flesh and thinking it is a voyeur’s paradise. Think about it: the vast majority of naturists are just normal people with normal bodies, by which I mean imperfect ones that are often a long way from the nubile young lesbian playthings or perfect hunks in your naturist dreams. So as much as you might imagine it to be one, it really isn’t that sexy an atmosphere.
That’s not to say there isn’t a (non-sexual) natural beauty in nudity that is well worth experiencing, but to put it in a nutshell: you gotta be there for the naturism, not the sex.
If you are only interested in the sex, that’s fair enough. We are not against that, but you need to pick a different kind of club or a spa or a resort, where the voyeuristic, exhibitionist and swinging aspect is the main thrust (pardon the pun). Choosing the right one is not rocket science; Google will help.
But what about that twist in the tale?
I know I have gone out of my way to explain why naturism and sex are (and probably should be) kept separate, but in the end there is a powerful connection.
It’s all to do with that indescribable feeling of liberation that naturism generates in your mind, along with the excitement, the relaxation, the de-stressing, the sensual feeling of the sun, wind or even rain on your skin, feeling at one with nature, the self-pride, the dare factor and more besides, even the spiritual quality of it.
It doesn’t produce a hard-on whoosh of aching lust with a need to unload your cum as fast as possible; we have already established that you won’t even get an erection. But when you and your partner get back to the privacy of your tent or chalet or room, if you are like us you will find that all that liberation puts you in the perfect mood for sex.
This is an attraction that genuine naturist resorts daren’t mention on their websites - they are so determined not to attract the wrong kind of people - but it is a factor.
Having lost most or perhaps all of your inhibitions when you took off your clothes in public, in private you could be on course for not only quality sex but perhaps also an appetite and willingness for a kinkier, unashamed kind of sex, compared with the routine at home (and, guys: that may be the best reason of all for talking her into giving naturism a try).
So, to summarise: sex is wonderful, naturism is wonderful, and sex after (but probably not during) naturism is wonderful, too, but if you want to be accepted as a bona fide naturist, make sure you don’t mention the S-word.
PS If you are a single would-be (male) naturist who is genuinely interested in the non-sexual joy of it, or you are in a relationship but your partner doesn’t share your appetite for being naked in public with other people, you may find it difficult to get into social naturism. This is partly because naturist clubs and other venues are generally sexist in their attitude towards single men, assuming them to be perverts, even though they are probably just normal, innocent, red-blooded, sensual males, which is not a crime - and that is undoubtedly really unfair on those guys. On the other hand, many of them do not help themselves by approaching it in the wrong way and making other errors. I will probably make this the subject of a future post, but, in the meantime, if this situation applies to you and you are keen to be a genuine naturist, I will gladly give advice, if you message me.
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