The BDSM Community (2021)
This is going to be an interesting, I hope, post with a bit of Dominant mind insight as well as some general experiences I've seen since this year has started. Let me preface this by saying, and any submissive who knows me knows this to be true, I never go out "On the Prowl" looking for a submissive, it isn't my nature or how I am as a Master... I help, I teach, I talk and if a girl comes to me I'm happy to do what I can with her...if we have a connection then we figure that out, but I never go prowling to find a girl to serve me.
Lets start off by saying, 2020 sucked. 2020 changed our world in a way I really see no real way back from, how we all do things have all changed and we, as people, have changed as well.
Now...
How has this changed the BDSM community in 2021?
Drastically
No one in their right minds anymore are going to just randomly meet up with people and even have drawn back from meeting those people that we know and have known for quite some time. Friends in the community that I've had locally have drawn back into their own little fortresses (homes) and don't even have friends over for drinks. Events are canceled left, right, and center...
In short, the community has withdrawn into itself and become a much more 'online' oriented community, which is understandable and fine however it seems like it's opened the floodgates to huge amounts of unwanted intruders into things.
So many subs out there still seem to be thinking in the old terms, "Oh, I'm looking for real time only, nothing online." seems to be a repeated statement I hear from friends looking for girls online yet at the same time none of them have been open to meeting due to the pandemic...
In an era where we should start to see exponential growth in the community where borders and distances don't matter anymore, we're seeing a huge contraction of our community and those established in it seem to be becoming smaller and smaller little islands in the vast sea of emptiness.
Making matters worse, you still have the clueless assholes out there who are abusing and hurting girls for their own enjoyment further driving the community into disarray. In my chatting here on XH, admittedly most of it being with other Dominants anymore, the reoccurring themes are that there seem to be a select number of users out there with multiple accounts leeching onto every new sub that shows up, throwing them in "a collar" and brainwashing them into thinking they are being trained as this person's slaves, that they are the ONLY one they are working with (while they work with 20 others), and use them to get random blog post reports and pictures of girls who really do want to learn with items shoved up their asses because that is supposed to be 'Domination.'
It makes me sick to see this type of thing happen when I know good, honest, and real Dominants who are out there unable to even get the time of day from submissives because they are all 'serving' these wannabies until the asshole gets bored and ghosts them leaving them feeling like they were the failure and withdrawing from the community.
IT MAKES ME SICK.
I remember before the world went to shit (pandemic) it would be an average of 3 or 4 submissives per week that would come to me with little questions or even just to chat friendly in a non-BDSM environment, but now a days even those people are 'not allowed' to speak to anyone else by their 'Master' because they 'belong to him.'
It's fucking laughable that we've gotten where we are, that these innocent girls are so manipulated in a way that they are afraid that these fakes will drop them if they talk to someone else when, in reality, the reason they are doing it is because they don't want to be outed as the liars they are.
Our community needs to figure itself out, submissives need to realize at least in the short term and possibly longer we are in an online world now and that is going to be the avenue for training at least for the foreseeable future. Perhaps one day we can all get vaccinated against this and the next version won't hit so quickly as to put us right back where we started, but take advantage of this time to learn, to experience, and to be taught in this different way so you can learn in a safer environment before you're jumping straight back into in-person experiences...it will save you a lot of pain, a lot of suffering, and it will open your opportunities to Dominants from areas you normally wouldn't have had access to.
The Internet is a wonderful tool, we now use it on a much greater scale for remote working and remote learning....use it to allow yourself to experience another Dominant's way of doing things and see where it goes.
Lets start off by saying, 2020 sucked. 2020 changed our world in a way I really see no real way back from, how we all do things have all changed and we, as people, have changed as well.
Now...
How has this changed the BDSM community in 2021?
Drastically
No one in their right minds anymore are going to just randomly meet up with people and even have drawn back from meeting those people that we know and have known for quite some time. Friends in the community that I've had locally have drawn back into their own little fortresses (homes) and don't even have friends over for drinks. Events are canceled left, right, and center...
In short, the community has withdrawn into itself and become a much more 'online' oriented community, which is understandable and fine however it seems like it's opened the floodgates to huge amounts of unwanted intruders into things.
So many subs out there still seem to be thinking in the old terms, "Oh, I'm looking for real time only, nothing online." seems to be a repeated statement I hear from friends looking for girls online yet at the same time none of them have been open to meeting due to the pandemic...
In an era where we should start to see exponential growth in the community where borders and distances don't matter anymore, we're seeing a huge contraction of our community and those established in it seem to be becoming smaller and smaller little islands in the vast sea of emptiness.
Making matters worse, you still have the clueless assholes out there who are abusing and hurting girls for their own enjoyment further driving the community into disarray. In my chatting here on XH, admittedly most of it being with other Dominants anymore, the reoccurring themes are that there seem to be a select number of users out there with multiple accounts leeching onto every new sub that shows up, throwing them in "a collar" and brainwashing them into thinking they are being trained as this person's slaves, that they are the ONLY one they are working with (while they work with 20 others), and use them to get random blog post reports and pictures of girls who really do want to learn with items shoved up their asses because that is supposed to be 'Domination.'
It makes me sick to see this type of thing happen when I know good, honest, and real Dominants who are out there unable to even get the time of day from submissives because they are all 'serving' these wannabies until the asshole gets bored and ghosts them leaving them feeling like they were the failure and withdrawing from the community.
IT MAKES ME SICK.
I remember before the world went to shit (pandemic) it would be an average of 3 or 4 submissives per week that would come to me with little questions or even just to chat friendly in a non-BDSM environment, but now a days even those people are 'not allowed' to speak to anyone else by their 'Master' because they 'belong to him.'
It's fucking laughable that we've gotten where we are, that these innocent girls are so manipulated in a way that they are afraid that these fakes will drop them if they talk to someone else when, in reality, the reason they are doing it is because they don't want to be outed as the liars they are.
Our community needs to figure itself out, submissives need to realize at least in the short term and possibly longer we are in an online world now and that is going to be the avenue for training at least for the foreseeable future. Perhaps one day we can all get vaccinated against this and the next version won't hit so quickly as to put us right back where we started, but take advantage of this time to learn, to experience, and to be taught in this different way so you can learn in a safer environment before you're jumping straight back into in-person experiences...it will save you a lot of pain, a lot of suffering, and it will open your opportunities to Dominants from areas you normally wouldn't have had access to.
The Internet is a wonderful tool, we now use it on a much greater scale for remote working and remote learning....use it to allow yourself to experience another Dominant's way of doing things and see where it goes.
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